I have always been very drawn to music.  My musical interests include a variety of styles that bridges centuries, from orchestral masterpieces and classical symphonies to oldies and rock & roll.  I have found that an occasional piece of music really speaks to my soul.  The words of these composers seem to encompass my emotions and accurately express my feelings.  These are my favorite types of songs.  The composers' passions are so palpable it sometimes brings tears to my eyes.  Here are a few of the songs about which I refer.  

 The Living Years by Mike and the Mechanics

I don't know why I have always liked this song.  It helps me to remember not to hold grudges, to express my love on a daily basis, and to live for the moment.

Every generation blames the one before
And all of their frustrations come beating on your door
I know that I'm a prisoner to all my father held so dear
I know that i'm a hostage to all his hopes and fears
I just wish i could have told him in the living years
Crumpled bits of paper filled with imperfect thought
Stilted conversations; I'm afraid that's all we've got
You say you just don't see it; He says it's perfect sense
You just can't get agreement in this present tense
We all talk a different language, talking in defence
Say it loud, say it clear, you can listen as well as you hear
It's too late when we die to admit we don't see eye to eye
So we open up a quarrel between the present and the past
We only sacrifice the future; It's the bitterness that lasts
So don't yield to the fortunes you sometimes see as fate
It may have a new perspective on a different day
And if you don't give up, and don't give in you may just be o.k.
I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away
I didn't get to tell him all the things i had to say
I think i caught his spirit later that same year
I'm sure i heard his echo in my baby's new born tears
I just wish i could have told him in the living years

Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon and Garfunkel

I used to love this song when I was a little girl...and I still do!  I think it is comforting to know there is someone in your life who you can always count on.  It reminds me of my grandmother.

 When you're weary, Feeling small
When tears are in your eyes, I will dry them all
I'm on your side when times get rough
And friends just can't be found
Like a bridge over troubled water, I will lay me down
When you're down and out, When you're on the street
When evening falls so hard I will comfort you
I'll take your part when darkness comes
And pain is all around
Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down
Sail on Silver Girl, Sail on by
Your time has come to shine
All your dreams are on their way
See how they shine
If you need a friend, I'm sailing right behind
Like a bridge over troubled water I will ease your mind

In My Life by The Beatles

This is one of the few songs I have learned to play on my guitar.  The words used to express my feelings for Steven, especially soon after he passed away.  And they have new meaning to me now that I have found Derek.

There are places I remember
All my life though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places had their moments
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I've loved them all
But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more

Mr. Ambulance Driver by The Flaming Lips

This song is an eerily accurate depiction of how I felt while waiting for the ambulance to arrive that fateful day.  Unfortunately, we were all too late to save Steven.  And for a long time afterwards I felt just like it says...not a real survivor because I wished that it had been me. 

Waiting, for the Ambulance to come
Hoping that it doesn't come too late
Hearing the sirens in the distance
Hold on help is on the way.
Mr. Ambulance Driver
I'm right here beside her
Though I live somehow I frown
Mr. Ambulance Driver
I'm not a real survivor
Wishing that I was the one that wasn't here anymore
Oh we can't trade places
Our lives are strangely our own
Mr. Ambulance Driver
Tell me for everyone that dies
Someone new is born

Do You Realize by The Flaming Lips

I can't even find words appropriate enough to describe this song.  Perhaps enlightening.

Do You Realize - that you have the most beautiful face
Do You Realize - we're floating in space -
Do You Realize - that happiness makes you cry
Do You Realize - that everyone you know someday will die
And instead of saying all of your goodbyes - let them know
You realize that life goes fast
It's hard to make the good things last
You realize the sun doesn't go down
It's just an illusion caused by the world spinning round

Wish You Were Here by Pink Floyd

Here is another one I learned to play on my guitar.

So you think you can tell Heaven from Hell,
Blue skys from pain.
Can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell? 
Did they get you to trade your heroes for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees? Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change? 
Did you exchange a walk on part in the war
For a lead role in a cage? 
How I wish you were here.
We're just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl,
Year after year,
Running over the same old ground. 
What have we found?
The same old fears.
Wish you were here

Heaven by Bryan Adams

I first heard this song as a remake by DJ Sammy and Yanou (who did a great job, by the way).  I used to feel like it exactly reflected my relationship with Steven...we dated in high school, then went through a rough patch, dated other people, and ended up back together again.  But then something did take him away from me.  I truly believe he will always live on in my heart and in my memories, and I hope to see him again in heaven someday.

Oh - thinkin' about all our younger years
There was only you and me
We were young and wild and free
Now nothin' can take you away from me
We've been down that road before
But that's over now; You keep me coming back for more
Baby you're all that I want
When you're lying here in my arms
I'm finding it hard to believe we're in heaven
And love is all that I need
And I found it there in your heart
It isn't too hard to see we're in heaven 
Once in your life you find someone
Who will turn your world around
Bring you up when you're feelin' down 
Nothing could change what you mean to me 
There's lots that I could say
But just hold me now, Cause our love will light the way 
I've been waiting for so long
For something to arrive, for love to come along
Now our dreams are coming true
Through the good times and the bad 
I'll be standing there by you

I guess I have been feeling really guilty lately about not bringing flowers to the graveyard.  It is making me strangely reminiscent.  I have also been upset by the way my memories have been fading and are not as sharp and detailed as they once were.  It makes me sad and afraid of losing them.  I feel like I need to write it all down, as much as I can still remember anyway.  Even if I never read it or look at it again it might make me feel better.

I promise not all of my favorite songs are so depressing and sad.  Next time I will make an effort to do only happy songs.

 

 

Add A Comment

Comments:

Be the first to add a comment below.
Want to leave a comment and join the discussion?

Sign up for CafeMom!

Already a member? Click here to log in