I need to let this out.

[ProudSingleMum]

I don't care if you love me, or hate me.
I don't care if you love my kid, or hate my kid.
I don't care if you had kids or didn't.
I don't care if you understand or you don't.
And I don't care if you are somewhere in between all of this.

What I do care about is that you keep your freaking mouth shut. Why?! Well, let me tell you. You don't live my life. I don't hate my life by any stretch of the imagination, but ya know what...there is a lot of stuff I am responsible for every single moment of every single day. And all day long I do my best to remain calm while making sure everything is taken care of. If you have known me for a little while, then you probably know I have a short temper. If you have known me longer than that, then you definitely know it isn't nearly as short as it used to be. Also, if you don't know...which again, based on the criterion already listed you should, when I am tired or hungry, I get irritated/angry quicker. So...when it is the end of the day...and we are dealing with the 100000000000 time that my child has not listened to me, and I yell....here is what you need to do:

KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!

And here is why:

A. You have not lived my life today...so you have no idea what I have dealt with all day.
B. While yelling at him is certainly not the best thing I could do for him, it certainly isn't the worst.
C. I am the parent, and while you may disagree with how I react, what I react to, etc, what I say goes.
D. I am already either irritated or angry...you opening your mouth...is only adding all the fuel in Texas to small kitchen fire that has started.
E. You may not think it matters, but when I 'lay down the law' and you come in and say what you think...you are undermining my authority. It doesn't matter if I am wrong...in front of my child is NOT the time to bring it up.

Here is what you can do:

A. Wait until I have calmed down and talk to me about why you think I over-reacted, and how you think I should handle it. This does not mean I am going to do it your way...but it does mean I will at least be listening with an open mind.
B. Say something, if and ONLY IF...my child is in immediate danger. If (and as this has never happened and I don't foresee it happening, the chances are slim) you see me hitting, kicking, pinching, slamming, strangling, etc. my child...please feel free to step in. Again...this is most likely NOT the case....but I am putting it in, just so we are clear.

Now...I feel better.

[littleboys2008]

Jun. 1, 2009 at 9:21 PM

I agree totally i feel the same i hate people who think it is there god given right to say wat they think or tell me how i should raise my child i carried him for 9months and gave birth to him i believe that gives me the right to raise him how i believe he should be raised and i know wat is best for him! So hell yeah mom you go! Don't let anyone tell u wat u should do!