I am losing it!!!

[macmomsangel]

I am so lost right now and do not know which way to go. In August, it will be one year since my husband got laid off. In September, it will be a year since I got laid off. I couldn't find a job that didn't require some kind of degree so I went back to college to get my associates degree. We went from bringing in $1500 a week to $400 a week. The savings have finally run out and things are getting pretty rough.

The satellite was shut off a month ago. The van was repossessed last night. This week the dilemma is do I pay the car note or the light bill? My two kids that are at home are 20 and almost 18. When I told them that until things get better they need to help with the bills, you would have thought that I was murdering them. What in the world is wrong with them helping out with the bills? When I lived at home when I was 18 I had to pay rent. I thought it was fair because then I could come and go as I pleased because I was helping with the bills. Mine want to live here but do not want to help out in anyway. My son was supposed to mow the yard today to get it ready for his graduation. Did he do it? No he was too bust running around with his girlfriend. What do you think he had the nerve to ask when I got home from school.? Mom, I don't have any gas in my car, can I have some gas money?

What in the world is going through his mind? His father took the last $20 that we had to put gas in his truck so that he could get back and forth to work. I flipped out. I am bipolar and since my medicine is about $300 I can't afford it. I am in such a manic depressive state that I can not function and he wants me to give him gas money. I am also diabetic, which I can not afford that medicine either. No matter what I watch when I eat or drink with the stress my sugar is way out of control. But yet my daughter wants to know when I am going to get the satellite turned back on. Where we live there is no cable and with the antenna we only get 3 channels. She'll either have to deal with it or pay the satellite herself.

For some reason my kids think that I owe them. With all of this they wonder why I am almost completely crazy.

[Pinkmommy2]

Jun. 3, 2009 at 4:30 PM

I am sorry you are going though this.  Maybe you get get some help to pay your bills though your local social service office. They will help with power bill, in most cases. I wanna know what you were doing making $1500 a week! :-)  Really though, check into help VIA soical serives, they might even be able to help you get your meds too.

[pinkflowerpetal]

Jun. 3, 2009 at 4:33 PM

My 19 yr old doesn't work & thinks she can do whatever she pleases & not have to help out at all. My 21 yr dd has a job & pays me rent. She complains about it but oh well .I tell her shes an adult & if she doesn't like it she can get an apt & then she'll find out what paying bills are. They Should be helping you out. Even if you were financially okay. It gives them alittle taste of the real world. I know what its like mine think I' m supposed to still do their laundry ,all the dirty dishes, etc... I hope you didn't give him gas money. You need your meds first. They are a necessity. Well I hope I 've helped somehow. Take care.

[baconbits]

Jun. 3, 2009 at 4:54 PM

Put your foot down with them. Let them know that there will be no satilite. (I only get 1 channel so you've got it better there!). Lawn doesn't get mowed for his graduation then tuff cookie. Leave it long. If anyone asks tell them he wanted it tall for it. Don't give either one of them the first penny for anything. They want something let them earn it.