Why am I being put down for doing the right thing?

[biggunsdolphin]

Have you ever had someone ask you to do something, you go through the trouble of getting that done for them and then they don't show? I HATE THAT!

I had a garage sale at my home, my sister in law came to help and sell a few things. We live outside of town in the country, and so we didn't do so well. I called my parents in law to find out if we could try at their home (they live in the city, and have a lot more traffic) and my father in law didn't sound too enthralled about it. So I called my mother and asked her. She said that it would be no problem. Then my mother in law called and said that she would cook us breakfast and that we could do it at their home. I figured that I would call my mother in the morning (seeing that it was almost 10pm) and I would tell her we would be there later in the day. I had told my mother in law that I had asked my mom, because my father in law didn't sound excited about it. Well, the next morning, my mother calls and tells me that she had gotten up, moved vehicles around, and cleaned up her front yard so that we could have it there.

I talked to my dh and told him what was going on and told him I didn't feel comfortable waiting to go to mom's because she had gone through all the trouble for me. (You kind of have to know that my mother and I are a lot alike and haven't had the best of relationships due to a lot of history. She doesn't do a lot for me.) I was pleasantly surprised and didn't want her to get up early go through all that trouble, just to turn around and put her out, or not show up. We go to his parents house and my sister in law shows up and we tell her that we are going to go to my mother's house and then maybe come back later to my parents in law. She seemed aggravated and told me that we would sell more stuff there. I told her that I was not willing to do that. I explained that my mother doesn't do a lot for me and I wanted to make sure that I didn't take advantage of her.

We ended up going to my mother's for about 4 hours, didn't do great, but I went. We then went back to parents in laws house and sold quite a bit more. My sister in law then said, "Don't you wish you had listened to me?" NO! I told her that I would much have rather done the right thing and made no money, then to have stood up my mother's hard work and made every bit of money we needed to make.

Am I wrong? Did I make the wrong decision? Did I do the right thing? If I did do the right thing, why must people put me down for it? I don't know. I just feel like I did the right thing and I really don't understand why more people can't be that way. If I tell someone that I am going to do something, I am going to do my best to do it, and if I can't, I am going to call and apologize and try to make other plans. But if someone has gone out of their way for me, I can't stand them up. That is just who I am.

Thanks for letting me vent. If anyone has any suggestions, or think that I was wrong, please let me know.

[sati769leigh]

Jun. 8, 2009 at 10:07 AM

People often say things without thinking. You did the right thing. your mom might hav ebeen very upset if you had not gone there first. family relations are more imporant that MONEY. good going momma!

[kk_bella]

Jun. 8, 2009 at 10:12 AM

I don't think you were wrong.