HELL begins TOMORROW.

[SuperHumanC]

Tomorrow my son's biological father, John (aka the Enemy) and his mother, Larissa, are coming into town. For the past 2 months that I have been talking to them (mind you it's been SIX years) they had me thinking they were coming to actually visit my son. They said they wanted to begin a relationship with him, being that he's about to turn SEVEN years old and all.

WELLLLLLLL!

John called me the other day and dropped a big bomb on me. The *REAL* reason they are coming is so they can have a f**king paternity test done on my son. Nevermind the fact we were living together back then, nevermind my son looks TOO much like him, and nevermind he has NEVER spouted this garbage before!

His mother is afraid he is going to be court ordered to pay me back child support. And she should be afraid! Be VERY afraid.

While he's been out getting high off HEROIN and Methadone for the past SIX years and livin' it up in LOS ANGELES....I've been here on the East Coast *raising MY son A-L-O-N-E*.

Guess what? Roman doesn't grow on water & sunshine! It cost me MONEY, cash money to raise this kid! What the hell are they thinking?! And now that I'm here in Savannah, I'm finally getting my health under control....which, THANK GOD I DID NOT DIE in FLA from having such severe diabetes/blood pressure! (Seriously, my doctors here are amazed I survived so long. They honestly told me I definitely have guardian angels watching me)

Needless to say I am not working and my granddad, bless his heart, only gets so much for his SSI & pension. Oh, and I'd also like to point out that John's family is LOADED....they have more money than they know what to do with. So to me, his mother trying to scheme a way to get John out of paying me child support is like adding insult to injury.

I was trying to be nice to them, but not anymore. They are DONE playing me for a fool. And I am done listening to their lies. As soon as those results come in next week I'm going straight to the child support office. And I'm going to request back pay for the past 7 years as well as having it automatically deducted from his Tax Refunds/paychecks.

I HATE DEAD-BEAT DADS!

[MemawBrie]

Jun. 11, 2009 at 12:58 PM

I HATE DEAD-BEAT DADS!

You and me both!  Not only will they garnish his tax refunds, they'll suspend his driver's license until he's caught up on his child support.  Maybe his "loaded" mommy will bail him out - LOL  Good luck and Kudos to you!

[SuperHumanC]

Jun. 11, 2009 at 1:00 PM

Thanks! I needs all the luck I can get!

(Original Poster)

[candela0313]

Jun. 11, 2009 at 1:16 PM

I have one of those 2 & I am glad he isn't around. You go get him for everything. GOOD LUCK!

[mamabear0824]

Jun. 11, 2009 at 1:29 PM

i kno were your comin from..my son has a dead beat dad.thankfuly the fathers mom helps me out bcus i have no college background.i work at mcdonald which i just started my son is 2.so i had to get on welfare meaning the test was free came back thart he was the father and owes me alot of back support bcus he has no job to pay me what he owes me now~!my  ds father lives legit 15 mins(walking) 5 mins driving) and cant walk over to see him wont take him to the park tht is legit right inbetween are houses he has another son which is hahaha 9 mos older than my son!!!and he also isnt too much in his life also...it hurts em tho becus he is more in his older sons life than mine!but i feel ya take care get that money because not only do u deserve it for doin it all on ur own which i give kudos for u~~but ur son deserves it also and the father deserves to get that money out of his check

[star33]

Jun. 11, 2009 at 10:20 PM

i agree. that's pretty crappy. why didn't he say that in the beginning? what a loser. be glad u don't live with him.

[Lb128f]

Jun. 12, 2009 at 1:18 AM

Good Luck!

[vicky31mom]

Jun. 12, 2009 at 8:07 AM

I have been fighting my son's dead beat dad for YEARS he owes me over 10, 000! He never keeps a job so he can keep them guessing on the support... nice right? Finally getting some support because the sate HE lives in instead of the state I live in is going after him! YEA!!!

Fight him like hell!!!!!!

[Harmony0501]

Jun. 12, 2009 at 9:00 AM

okay, so he is going to get the results back... and then without knowing it he just opened pandora's box. i grew up with a sperm doner (he wasn't my mom was married to him at the time, but that is what i call him) only paid $88 A MONTH!!! i don't have to sit here and tell ANYONE what the DOES NOT buy. you go to court and get that back child support. and don't think twice about it. what a slap in the face! i can't believe how some "boys" run to mommy and get these crazy ideas rather than taking responsibility for what is his... good luck to you and DON'T BACK DOWN!!!

[rhiannond]

Jun. 12, 2009 at 11:01 AM

First- tell him the paternity test will include a drug test.

Then, tell him that if he wants to sign over his parental rights to the kid, you will stop coming after C/S.

I know the C/S helps, but you qualify for a lot more help in other areas if he gives up paternal rights AND you never have to worry about him trying to show up or having to tell him when you move. It cuts out that heartache for you and your son. And then, when your Charming comes, you don't have to find DBD for permission for adoption.

[indianagrandma]

Jun. 12, 2009 at 11:15 AM

IT IS BEST NOT TO HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH HIM,WE WENT THROUGH THAT WITH MY GRANDSON WHO IS NOW 10.HIS MOTHER TRIED TO TAKE HIM AWAY FROM MY DAUGHTER WHEN HE WAS BORN,AND HE WAS BORN WITH A CLEFT LIP AND PALATE,NEEDLESS TO SAY THEY DIDN'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIM UNTIL AFTER HIS SURGERYS THEY WERE AFRAID THEY MIGHT HAVE TO PAY SOME MONEY OUT OF POCKET.MY DAUGHTER NEVER MARRIED THIS GUY AND WAS STILL COURT ORDERED TO GIVE HER SON HIS LAST NAME AND COURT ORDERED TO LET HIM SEE MY GRANDSON.I CANNOT BEGIN TO TELL U WHAT ALL WE WENT THROUGH.HIS OTHER GRAND MOTHER WHO WANTED TO TAKE HIM FOUND OUT SHE HAD CANCER WHEN HE WAS 7 NOTHING UNTIL HE WAS 7 AND TRIED TO MAKE UP FOR LOST TIME.U CAN'T MAKE UP 7 YEARS OF LOST TIME.SHE DIED A SHORT TIME LATER AND MISSED OUT ON 7 YEARS OF HIS LIFE.WE WANTED HIS DAD TO WALK AWAY AND TOLD HIM HE WOULDN'T HAVE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT.HE IS SO STRICT ON MY GRANDSON HE HAS TO AK FOR SOMETHING TO EAT,HE CAN'T GO GET A SNACK OR A DRINK UNLESS HE ASKS FIRST.NOW HE HAS TO GO TO HIS HOUSE FRO 2 WEEKS AND MY STOMACH IS IN KNOTS.HIS DAD HAS PUT US ALL THROUGH HELL.YOU ARE BETTER OFF IF HE ISN'T THE DAD AND NOT PUT YOUR SON THROUGH ALL THE GRIVE WE WENT THROUGH!