What do you do?

[Jessie1689]

What are you supposed to do when every few days or weeks or even months it just feels like everything is gonna fall apart? That the life you know and have come to accept and love is going to crumble around your feet.

I get this every so often and it sucks! I try to make him understand something and he just doesn't care. I need a new car because mine won't fit a carseat in there without a lot of problems, and it would push the passanger into the dashboard. So I would rather spend the extra money to get a car that will be safe for everyone to be in. I compare this with all the stuff he wants, and he still doesn't care.

I understand getting all the stuff we need before the baby and maybe some of the stuff we want before he/she is here, but still! He doesn't understand that when I am paying for ALL of my medical bills and doctor visits that I'm not able to save any money what-so-ever! I don't even make that much anyways. Any money I would be saving would be from my tips, but having to fork out 1000$ or so a month for my car, insurance, rent, cell phone and then what-ever medical bill comes along adds up and I don't have any free spend.

It's so weird that all of the small things seem to add up and turn into something big. I don't know how I am going to be able to save any money for when I have to go on maturnity leave when I am paying all of my medical bills on top of all my other bills. Hell the only thing he even pays is rent and his cell phone. If anything he should be the one paying my medical bills, he makes slightly more than I do.

It just feels like the world is against me... Makes me think of leaving again, just up and telling him oh sorry there's no more baby and just leaving town. Getting a new doctor, new job, new life and raising the baby on my own without him. But I don't want to keep his kid away from him either... It all just feels so wrong!

[my2stinkyboys]

Jun. 14, 2009 at 6:55 PM

I know things are going a little tough for you right now, I'm feeling the same way. my whole world did  fall apart 2 years ago. my husband got hurt at work and lost his job, we lost one of our cars( repo) we lost our house to foreclosure, we lost our  other car the night i gave birth to my son, the repo men came and took it from the parking lot! i know how  that it feels like you are buried under a heaping pile of shit Right now, but things will get better... i should know. just hang in there.

[troysmom2004]

Nov. 2, 2009 at 1:27 AM

Do you know that you can get paid family Leave (PFL) from work. Just sign up like disability, they can help you.  Also contact Northern Valley Catholic Services, they can help you or put you in touch with people that can and also they may help you sign up for Adopting Families.  That would be a great help during the holidays.  The mission and salvation army are doing sign ups right now for Thankgiving dinners.