Frustrating!!!!

[ash1106]

So my brother's fiancee....I guess every family has one in law they have a hard time getting along with.  Actually we can all get along pretty well it's just that she comes from a family where money has never been a real issue.  My parents have had plenty of struggles with my brothers and I and money has been an issue.  I don't understand where my middle brother (the one with the fiancee) got his sense of unappreciativeness but he's always been like that.  SO let me get to the point here. 

We had a Father's Day dinner at my parent's house my youngest brother and middle brother w/ fiancee, my husband, son and myself were all there.  My dad got out on the grill to cook sirloins (he's always had an issue with steak still "bleeding" after he's cooked it) everyone else in the family was pretty much like "it's fine however it's cooked".  My brother and fiancee like their steak rare and medium no matter what pretty much.  Which I don't understand with my brother cause dad has always cooked steak that way he cooks it as long as I can remember.  Anyway the food is ready and brother and fiancee were sitting at the table with my husband they were talking about the steak and brother was looking for the least done steak and his fiancee apparently made some comment to my brother that was not meant for everyone to hear, along the lines of "in this family you won't get steak cooked like that"  my hubby heard that and it set him off and make him so upset that they would be so ungrateful for the FREE meal that they didn't even have to help make, he had to step outside.  Now my hubby came from a home where they didn't have many family gatherings, his dad died when he was 6 so he has a really hard time with the unappreciative my brother and his fiancee are displaying (and usually this happens at every gathering) 

The whole situation just makes me upset, this girl my brother is going get married to has no clue the worth of a dollar or a penny for that matter.  They have combined their checking accounts and she spends money all the time and half the time doesn't let my brother know so they go overdrawn every other month or so.  They pulled that one again and I knew about it cause my brother sang me the money woes ( and who doesn't have money woes right now) about how they couldn't ask her parents cause they just bought her a car, they couldn't ask our parents cause mom just got dad a nice father's day gift.  So i was waiting for them to ask me and my hubby for money.  Luckily that didn't happen. 

I just can't believe that my brother is going to marry her.  She is his first serious girlfriend, I think he thinks that he won't be able to find anyone else so he's just settling.  I would sure like for my brother to get out and live life before settling cause when he was on his own he was doing really well.......

anyway i just needed to vent and this is the only place I can...

[MommyTurtle1985]

Jun. 22, 2009 at 9:21 AM

 EWW she sounds like a snob....... if thats what he wants...lol.....

I would totally tell her that if you marry my brother, you better act right, this is not how we act around here and dont think we'll take any of your snobish asshole ways of thinking. If you dont like something keep in to yourself. If hes gonna marry her then what are you gonna do right? Keep her in line, its not ok to ack like an ass. lol......i had more but i always feel like im rambling. I hope i helped.

[MommyTurtle1985]

Jun. 22, 2009 at 9:26 AM

 OH and on the barrowing money thing, my opinion is when it happend, keep callng them on.......like in front of everyone. Hey! why are you getting money off us., and where is your money and WTF??

I would totally embarass them, cause maybe if they feel weird about it they'll stop. I cant stand moochers. I hope that didn't offend you. OMG you have your own family to worry about and nobody really has money to go handing out. ya know??  Take your ungreatful wife and get your own money. Its not like she acts right and you like her and the situation right? They better not ask you for money.