*** Following That Still Small Voice ***

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When we first started fostering the kids we have now in February, Bubby (now 22 mo.) and Sissy (now 4 mo.), their Mom seemed very ambitious about working her plan. After a little while I thought I should probably meet her and try to establish a  relationship with her. I wanted her to know that I'm not trying to "steal" her kids and that if she is willing to work to get her kids back and straighten her life up, I want to be there and support her. But then around April she started missing visits and not showing up after she already confirmed the visit. The caseworker could not get ahold of her anywhere and said she was Missing in Action. She stood up the caseworker for home visits they had scheduled together. She was about to get kicked out of Drug rehab classes for missing so many  and hadn't even started her parenting classes. She hadn't complied with any of the drug screens and still didn't have a job and was being evicted from her home for the second time since February. That really bothered me and I didn't want anything to do with her anymore. How could you truly love your children and want them back and totally go against everything that's required? So about 11/2 months ago she told the caseworker she was ready to get busy again. She bought the kids clothes, started showing up for visits again, etc. I was still was frustrated with her and didn't really want to meet her. But, a few weeks ago when I dropped the kids off for their visit, I just felt so strongly that God wanted me to meet their Mom, it wouldn't leave me. I didn't even talk to Jacob about it and I always talk to him before making a decision like that. So when I picked up the kids I asked what I needed to do to be able to meet their Mom. She told me to come 10 min. early next time and I could meet with her. Well, the next week I met her. She cried a lot and told me she didn't know what she'd do without me, that it's been really hard without their Dad, and  that she just wanted her kids home. I hugged her and told her that I pray for her every day. I gave her my cell# and told her to call me if she needed anything. It was a wonderful experience, I felt our Saviour's love just pouring through me! It was so amazing! No, this is the AMAZING part! I talked to their caseworker about a week later and asked about the person their Dad wanted them to be placed with( Dad wrote a letter to CS requesting they be place with some woman. CS is obligated to check them out and it was a big probability they would go there if Backgroud checks, etc. came back OK. That had really been nagging me). She said she asked the Mom about her and the Mom said "Oh my gosh! That's his ex-girlfriend! Please don't put my babies there! Please! If I can't have my babies I want them to stay right where they are!" The caseworker said Mom has more rights than Dad concerning the kids so they'll be staying here and they're not even going to check that woman out. She could have named off any other relatives or friends she would like them to be with, but she chose us! Is that not AMAZING! I knew God had a purpose and I'm glad I didn't stand in his way!

Tags: fostering, birthmoms, children

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