MIL vent... (long)

[autiemommy2]

My crazy MIL. *sigh* Will she ever stop creating drama? No.

I wish DH would not get so upset over it. She's been this way all of her life. She will never change. She sees nothing wrong with the way she is. I've just ignored it... well, I ignore her. She does irritate me, but I just let it go after I vent. Too bad DH can't do the same thing. He lets it eat at him - and takes it out on me and the kids. It sucks, but that's how he is.

Anyway, back to crazy MIL... the back story is that she treats me like crap. She always has - she always will. She's not important to me so I don't care. Two month ago, she sent DH an email bitching about me but told him not to tell me about the email. (She's done this several times before.) He always lets me read the emails. I laugh it off b/c she's crazy and he knows that what she has concocted in her head is anything but true.

On mother's day, DH called her to of course wish her a happy mother's day... and the conversation started normal, but quickly took a nose dive b/c she just can't be happy about anything. She was mad that *I* didn't get her a mother's day card. (First of all, she's not my mother. Second, I've never gotten her one, why does this year matter? Third, she's never gotten me one.) I picked out a card for her from our children and one from DH. He signed his, I signed the one from the kids. This is SAME thing my mom and step mom got. Same every year. So, at the end of the conversation, she tells DH that she doesn't want to be a grandmother anymore and hangs up on him. He's pissed. I laughed!

You can't make someone do something they don't want to do, so I told him to let it go b/c we both know she was just being dramatic and fishing for attention. So we didn't give her any. So NOW (as of Friday), she's decided that she wants to move to Maryland (where we are stationed). She didn't ask. She didn't call, email, or anything else. She posted it to facebook. She didn't post it to DH's FB page, asking him; she posted it as her status message! How rude!! DH and I are both furious to say the least.

Later that evening, she changes her FB status to read "moving to MD b/c grandson #3 will be arriving in September and I want babysitting time with my grandsons." I almost fell out of my chair!!!!! This woman JUST told us that she doesn't want to be a grandmother!! And to top it off, she's seen my oldest son twice - the last time when he was 18 months old (he's 3 years 3 months old)! She was here for less than 6 hours, spent no time with him b/c she said "he hates me" (he didn't even know her!) and left. With my second son, she's NEVER met him. Ever. She's had opportunities, she never takes them. Her loss. And I'm NOT going to worry about her acting like a brat!

It irritates me that not only does she think she can just move up here without discussing it with us, she thinks she's going to get babysitting time??? That's the biggest joke yet! If my oldest alledgedly "hates" her, she's never met my youngest, and I'm about to have another one, there is NO way on any planet that I would leave my kids with her! She's freaking crazy!!! I have yet to leave my kids with a babysitter. I've only left them with my mom and/or dad - and that was only if I had something to do that I couldn't bring them along for. Once, I dropped them both off for a weekend so that I could pack to move.

I don't think she will actually move here. Who knows. She's just crazy enough to do it and not care about what we say or think. If she does, she's on her own. I'm not letting her babysit or even see my kids. She's horrible to me on all levels, she knows nothing about my kids, and if I let her get a foot in the door, she will try to take over everything. That's bullshit. This is our life and our marriage - she will NOT take over the life we have and love! My motherly instinct to protect my offspring has kicked in big time!! The LAST person I want around is my MIL. DH doesn't want anything to do with her either.

The sad part is that my DH called his dad to see if he knew anything about her plans to move to MD. FIL said he knew nothing. When DH asked him to talk her out of it b/c we all know it's a bad idea, FIL pretty much told him to get over it. I think FIL is sick of her shit and willing to let her go where ever she wants just to get away from her. It sucks that he made my DH feel like our opinions don't matter. Either way, we are both pissed about the situation. I'm trying to just let it go, but it's hard. DH is still acting up about it, which is effecting us in a bad way. I want to send her an email, but that would just cause more drama than it's worth. I'm hoping this will all just blow over and she will stay in Texas. I hope DH can learn to let it go soon...

There's my vent. I've got about 2 more months of pregnancy left. I really hope she just stays away. The only reason my dad is coming up is to keep my other sons while I give birth. After that, I don't really want anyone around. I like having our family bonding time - plus, I'm going to try to breast feed again and I don't want anyone getting in the way of that again. They can come up later, after a few weeks, but no one listens to us. They don't care what we want. I love my family, but I just want to bond with my little family. Let's hope this turns out the way DH and I want without having to be asses to our families! (haha)

[Caribug]

Jun. 22, 2009 at 10:24 PM You know I thought my MIL was crazy but yours takes the cake!