I know people have said it is contradicting to be both pro life and pro choice.  But I am 100% pro life and pro choice.  For myself I am pro life.  I would never get an abortion, they make me feel sick to just think of someone doing it.  And yes if I was raped and got pregnant I would carry the baby to term (and I was raped when I was 16 so I know how that is).  If my baby had down syndrom I would keep the baby.  I feel if I am willing to have sex I should accept the responsibility of a child if it were to happen.  And it did for me.  Even though my BF and I were using condoms every time it still happened.  I wasn't on any other BC though, just condoms.  However I can't tell other people what to do.  I can give my advice or offer my opinion but I can't make the choice for them.  This is why I am pro-choice.  I do wish that the laws were a bit more strict when it came to abortions...maybe more counseling, or maybe if it is a minor the parents would need to be notified (because they don't...at least where I live).  It makes me sad to think that someone would get an abortion because they got pregnant and wen't using birth control.  Or they just didn't want the responsibility.  Thats why I think the laws should be stricter and there should be more steps to getting an abortion but I'm not about to tell someone they cannot get an abortion because I don't believe in it.  So this is how I am pro-life AND pro-choice :)

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Jun. 22, 2009 at 5:51 PM

I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to disagree. Either you are pro-life and believe that the "fetus" is a living being that deserves the right to live, or you don't. If you believe that women are carrying a life, then why on earth would you ever support their decision to kill that life? Saying that is as strange to me as saying that you would never kill your child, but you would never tell another mother what she can or can not do with her own children.

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Jun. 22, 2009 at 7:07 PM

I agree with the PP, if you are going to believe something believe it all the way.  You CANNOT be both pro-choice and pro-life.  If you believe every baby is a life than why would it be okay for another woman to make that choice.  if you are pro-life STAND UP for that... If you are pro-choice STAND UP for that, not both.

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Jun. 22, 2009 at 8:01 PM

I  don't think abortion should be used as a form of birth control so some women can continue to sleep around without consequences.

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Jun. 22, 2009 at 9:26 PM

I totally agree with you. I believe it's a personal choice, not something the government should be in control of. As for me I would never have an abortion.  It's the woman's body, so therefore, it should be the woman's choice.

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Jun. 22, 2009 at 10:28 PM

So then let  me ask why won't you ever have an abortion?  If you believe it for yourself it should stand true for everything you believe really this argument makes me batty either believe in it 100% or don't voice your opinion

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Jun. 23, 2009 at 7:31 PM

I would never get an abortion because I believe it is wrong.  It will never be illegal though.  I wish the laws could be more strict regarding aborions.  I do agree though if it is medically necessary then abortions are okay.  But REALLY medically necessary.  Like the monther will die if she continues to carry the baby, or if the baby didn't develop correctly (like I forget the condition but the brain is exposed and it is fatal for the baby if it survives the birth).  I'm never going to get anywhere telling people that killing your unborn child is wrong if they don't perceive it as wrong.  I dont' support their decision at all but I support the right to choose in all situations not just abortion. 

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Jun. 24, 2009 at 2:53 AM


How about approaching it from a scientific standpoint?

As in, technically, and scientifically, we know that once sperm hits egg, the newly formed zygote has life. It's aggressively dividing and growing, and it initiates just about every form of growth from then on, even so far as shedding its protective "shell" and attaching to the uterine lining, at which point it releases a hormone (hCG) which signals to the mother's body that it's time to begin nourishing this little life.

According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary online, life is "c: an organismic state characterized by capacity for metabolism, growth, reaction to stimuli, and reproduction" so that fits the bill for alive.

Furthermore, we know with great certainty that a unique human DNA imprint is given to the zygote at conception. In other words, that little zygote is an individual human, with individual DNA, and life.

So, a living human being.

That said, at what stage do you consider it acceptable for the US Government to tell people that it's not okay to kill living human beings? I assume that you don't support legalizing murder. So when does the human life become eligible for personhood under the US constitution, and therefore legal protection?

Only once you can answer that question can you determine whether (and how) pro-life or pro-choice you are.

We make laws about all sorts of moral things. Rape is illegal why? Because it's immoral. It does irreparable damage to another person. Murder? Why is theft illegal? Without governing morality, we can't govern much, really.

It's merely that the examples I mentioned are considered by the vast majority of people to be immoral and wrong for one reason or another. But abortion is not as widely accepted as wrong. So is it? Right or wrong?

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Jun. 24, 2009 at 11:59 AM

I agree with you armygirl!  I too am pro-life and pro-choice.  I don't think that abortion should be used as a form of birth control,  though I do have friends who have done this.  My best friend found out 5 1/2 months into her pregnancy that her twins were conjoined from the shoulder to the knee.  One was in heart failure at that time.  The other had a strong heart,  but if she chose to carry to term, he would have died within minutes b/c his heart was pumping blood from his body to the other twin.  My friend wrestled for a week over what to do. She met with several doctors,  her pastor, fiancee', family and friends for everyones opinions.  In the end, the decision was made to terminate the pregnancy for the health (both physical and mental) health of the mother.  That was the hardest decision that she has ever had to make and it still haunts her today.  I was with her during that  time and all that I can say is that she is one of the bravest people that I have ever met.  I don't know what I would have done in that situation.   She has been accused of being selfish,   only thinking of herself,  etc.....  but those of us close to her know the truth

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