How can you be a good mother if.......

[Godstar]

This morning at the Shelter, I came across a pamphlet titled, "ABC's of Good Parenting".  For every alphabet a positive statement is made starting with that letter, giving instructions on how to parent your child. 

I will not go through all of the alphabets, but I wanted to share a few that struck my core.  I thought of cafemom, and how this site is meant for mothers to come here to encourage, and support each other.  However, many believe that it is okay to bash, and tear down people spirits for having different views.

Maybe on other public forums that is acceptable, but this should not be tolerated here at all for any reason.  I don't know, maybe some of you have yet to learn your ABC's. 

Remember your children or watching what you do! 

If you can not treat a stranger respectfully for being who they are, how can you accept and love your child unconditionally? 

What if they rebel against you, and become like the person you bash? 

A- Accept your child as the wonderful person he or she is.

B- Be a good role model in all you say and do.

C- Communicate respectfully and listen attentively.

Here are a few more that stood out to me, and many of you have not learned this.

Instill respect for people and property.

Praise your child for their achievements as well as efforts.

Show patience and remember that nobody is perfect.

Teach good character traits.

Use the opportunity to say "I love you", and show your love.

Value your child's thoughts and opinions.

If you are already do these things plus some with your child, that is wonderful.  It would be even greater if you treated everyone you encounter the same way, because your children are watching everything you do. 

Are you a good mother?

God bless you all,

Tonisha Fortune

 

[PaxMommy]

Jun. 25, 2009 at 10:01 AM

Very nice post, Tonisha:)

[Godstar]

Jun. 25, 2009 at 10:07 AM

Thank you!!

(Original Poster)

[Godstar]

Jun. 25, 2009 at 11:54 AM

I lost count of all the times mothers here called me a crack-head, crazy, and even said my children needed to be taken from me, and on and on, just because I have a different belief system than them. 

What if I am talking to your children on myspace, yahoo, myyearbook, or tag, and they love my beliefs and then adopt them as their own.  Will you treat your children the way you have treated me here? 

(Original Poster)

[massagegiftmom]

Jun. 25, 2009 at 12:14 PM

As a step parent I have experienced this first hand.  Children learn from our example. Literally feeding off our energy, our mood, our behavior.  Kids at many age ranges are little sponges, is so important.  Our children are the world we will live in, how do we want it to look?  Full of love, joy and kindess is my vote!

Wonderful post!

[MommaAce]

Jun. 25, 2009 at 7:19 PM

wonderful post!  =)

[doodlebug2009]

Jul. 20, 2009 at 1:58 PM

You have some very good points. It really makes you stop and think. Thank you so much for sharing this. It is a very nice post. :-)

[Thelmama]

Jul. 20, 2009 at 5:56 PM

no one should bash anyone.  and one can disagree with another with respect.  I think I have done that...and I would never accuse you of being crazy or a bad mother.  I might think your are misguided but I would say it with all due respect without calling you names or bashing you.  Everyone has a right to their beliefs and opinions.  We do have Free will to believe as we want and to reject what we do not want to believe.  That is what makes our world such an interesting place.  And you and I are both created by God in His image but I still can believe what I believe and you can believe what you believe and that is all that needs to be said, correct?

[cabeachgirl770]

Jul. 22, 2009 at 5:51 PM Godstar, I've been reading your posts and you seem to think the world is so negative. There is more good working every single second of the day than you think. Right now, good has the lead so it needs to be strengthened. We only hear about the bad stuff because it happens less frequently than the good and no media wants to push good deeds...it doesn't attract ppl to the tube, it doesn't sell magazines or books. "Good" is not a bestseller. Mother Theresa is not someone many ppl would pay a ticket stub to see. Her life would not be a blockbuster movie. But a bit of her spirit has rubbed off on many. I see it everyday. If someone treats me in an inappropriate way I will remember it for yrs...you know why? It doesn't happen everyday or very often.