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When's MY Day Off??
- Jun 26, 2009 at 12:11 AM
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I used to think that being a stay at home mom was the easiest job a woman could have. Staying home, with someone you love- it sounded too good to be true. Well let me tell you- it sounded too good to be true because it’s not true. Oh my gosh, I don’t know how women do it, argh!
I’ve been a stay at home mom for about 9 months now. I’m not going to lie, it was pretty awesome the first couple of days, but then it started getting to me. Being a SAHM is really a thankless job. I never get a “thank you” for taking Cash (my son) to the park, for doing the dishes, cleaning our place, washing our car, doing the laundry, potty training my son, not one! Not to mention, I miss having a social life. Sometimes I want to hear more than mama, pee pee, poo poo and those other cute (but sometimes annoying) words.
Besides the “thankless job” part. My husband sometimes gets on my freaking nerves! I hate it when he comes home and acts like I’ve been sitting on my ass, watching soap opera’s while eating strawberry bon bon’s. It’s like what the hell? Oh, and get this, on his days off- he wants to sit on his ass and play video games for most of the day. So guess who has to watch Cash? Me!! When the hell do I get my day off?
Some days I wish there were “switch jobs with your wife” day. This way he’d realize how much I really do. Maybe then he’d appreciate me more. Cause I guarantee you- he wouldn’t last a day as a stay at home dad!
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I have been a SAHM for 30 years. I raised four girls, kept house, laundry, all those fun things moms do.
You never get a 'day off' or if you do its long time inbetween them. I would do little things like not do laundry on the weekends. I would plan outings with the girls for fun things to do with them to stay sane.
Its the hardest job in the world. It gets boring, yes boring, very boring.
I found projects to do for myself or the house.
Listening to children scream and cry , I learned to tune it out. I learned to hear for certain cries that meant someone was hurt and not just regular fighting.
I bought headphones and put them on and listened to music doing the housework.
I LOVED that big yellow school bus pulling up in the mornings!
And if I found I had the house alone, even if it was for 10 minutes I did MY own thing. Usually rested , watched TV or called a girlfriend. I used that time as my tiime off.
Its all worth it in the end when they grow up I promise you. My girls are all now having their own children. I see them raising them and keeping up with traditions that I set for them.
And you do get thank yous at some point in your life especially when they hand you a grandchild and say , Mom, I don't know how you did it! Thank you for giving me a fun, safe, childhood. Three out of four of my girls have thanked me. Still waiting on the fourth! Although she is only 21 .
Thank you ladies!
MSugarKane- I do realize that all the interaction with my son will pay off at some point. I just wish it would pay off with the hubby now. Don't get me wrong- I am very blessed to have such an awesome hubby- I just get frustrated at times, because some days he just doesn't get it!
I also try to make it fun for myself. I play music while I'm cleaning.. and things like that, but it's the repetition that bores me to death! Lol. I'm only 23 so maybe that's another factor. It sucks being stuck at home all friggin day!!
Believe me, it is probably one of the HARDEST "jobs" you will EVER do in your lifetime. And no, there is NEVER a day off for us. Even when you are away on a nice weekend with your hubby/SO.
It can be especially hard when you have a Special Needs child in your home of ANY type of disability. I have a SNC myself. And I never get to REALLY sit down for long because he is a high maintence child that has to have 24/7 supervision.
You'll be alright. I promise, in the end it will all be worth while. That is what I tell myself every single day.
Plus, this year, ALL THREE of my kids will be in school. That alone will really free up my time and let me do things I have had to put off on doing (walking more, reading a WHOLE book, volunteering at the school, ect.).
Just imagine having a special needs child AND having to work full time to make ends meet. Wow. They really have it hard... and I thought that working 2 jobs was hard (full time mom AND full time job)
Now I'm staying at home and have all the time in the world. Wish I could afford to do it forever.
You know I can see where you are coming from!
When I first became a work at home mom I had a very hard time with it. Hubby worked during the day and I was home with the kids.
I think men sometimes think it is easy work chasing kids all day and being at home doing the same stuff daily.
When my husband quit his job to work from home with me, he quickly realized that being an at home mom or at home parent was not as easy as he thought.
Are you kidding? You have ONE child to take care of and your bitching because you don't get credit for TAKING HIM TO THE PARK?
Easy solution, all you need to do is let your hubby stay home and YOU can go to work everyday and take on the responsibility of paying all the bills and supporting a family.
Being a SAHM is not the EASIEST job out there but it is probably a million times more REWARDING than the shit your hubby has to go through to support his family.
In the meantime, have a couple more kids and THEN post about how hard being a stay-at-home mom is.
Thank god your family isn't depending on YOU for support because you seem to think staying at home and taking care of ONE child is SO hard.
Thanks for your input. It's finally nice to meet a cafemom troll. If you have nothing nice to say, I suggest you not say anything at all. Miss, I like to talk shit, but don't have the balls to post a picture because I'm probably a fat ass pig (just like your little avatar there). Last time I checked- a journal was the way I felt about MY life. If you don't want to hear "my bitching"- then move your stupid ass on to another post you lame moron.
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