To Spank or Not To Spank Is The Question

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I was searching the internet on different parenting techniques on discipline. And I came across more posts stating "Spanking leads to violence...Child will become withdrawn and depressed....etc." Well, imagine my surprise when I realized that they were topics on spanking your children. First off, I am completely appaled to think that these "experts" are once again voicing their opinions to get the government more involved in our lives.  Secondly, none of these experts have ever lived in my house either and don't know what I go through with my children from day to day.

So, lets get these facts straight. They may be my opinion, but I still vote that the government should stay out of our business and that these "experts" need to see what it's like to be a parent, because you know most of them aren't.

If spanking is so bad, then why do the school systems still use corporal punishment? Granted, you can always speak to the school officals and tell them that you don't want your child to be paddled or that you woul like a phone call first. Although, that's kind of avoiding punishment altogether, isn't it? I mean, paddling may work for one child, but not every, right? So, shouldn't we look at it that way? Shouldn't we just say, "Not all disciplining techniques work for every child." Instead of saying that we're bad parents because we raise our hands to our childrens' butts.

Besides, I believe in spanking to a certain extent. There is a difference between discipline and child abuse. And this is where these polls, articles, and discussions are getting out of hand. I read one online article that had an excerpt from an out of state newspaper on a little boy and his mother. It stated that spanking led to the little boy's death. That was the first statement in huge letters. Then, as it went on to describe that the little boy was told over and over again to clean his room. His mother said that he wouldn't and kept back talking her. She also said that she had had these problems with her son for quite sometime and that they were wearing her down and stressing her out each and every time they had a disagreement. And as it went on to explain that the more and more frustrated she grew, the more she spanked him, until it turned into her slapping him, punching him, and threw him into the corner. Where he hit his head and later resulted in him dying at the hospital due to a brain injury. Now, it seems to me that yes, while she did spank him first, that the first sign is not that the whooping is what killed him, it's his mother's lack of self control and her being stressed out. Now, experts say that if the mother had learned different disiplining techniques she would have never become enraged and felt forced to beat her child. Possibly true, but also, if the mother had felt like somebody was there to help her to control herself better first, she might have never become enraged with anger in the first place. So, is this why everyone is saying that spanking your child is bad? Because they believe that it is some form of child abuse or will lead to child abuse?

I was spanked growing up and trust me, there were times from that spanking that I realized I had better watch myself. When my mother gave me a certain look, I knew that I had better straighten up and act like a little lady. But, I didn't turn out to be a terrorist, a murderer, or have self-esteem issues due to punishment. I now have 4 kids' of my own and I want them to show me the same respect that my mother taught me to have. And if I have to pat them on the butt a few times for them to get the picture, than so be it.

But, now a days, that's not how children act. They know they can push your buttons and get away with it. They know that everything is in their favor now. No matter how hard you try to raise them the right way, it's like they don't care.  No matter how bad the kids' are, they are over looked and it's automatically the parents' fault. But, what if you're a good parent and just have bad kids'?

Remember back in 1999 when they were talking about the Y2K? They said all the satellites, eletronics, and computers were not equipped to handle the millenuim? Well, I believe that it was just a ploy for them send out radio signals to our kids' to start acting up. I know it sounds a little far fetched, but the government has been known to do weirder things. And it would explain why they want to control every aspect of our lives now. It's not a free country anymore. You can't say anything without getting into trouble, hell if you don't "blend in" with the crowd, you're now considered to be a terrorist.

So, I ask you this one question. What is your opinion? Do you think that these experts and the government are taking it too far? Or do you really believe that spanking will tear down a child's ability to be independent and confident? Besides, even if the United States makes it illegal, how are they ever going to know that you are spanking your child inside your own house? Can we say Big Brother? It can happen and watch and see, they will stop at nothing to keep controlling our lives.