Please please please help me forgive them

[Momma_Halo]

Have you ever met someone that just made you pray your hardest over just forgiving them? I bet you all have at some time in your life no matter what religion you are.

There are some women in my class that are mean. They think they are leaders yet no one wants to follow them because they are pushy and mean. When I or others outside of their close knit group bring in new ideas to the instructor they will talk over you and scream they know more than you. Or their famous groaning when they don't agree.

Every time they attack my ideas in class rather militantly I pray inside my head that I can get through this and to just forgive them. But it is getting harder and harder the more they just talk over people. And they are usually wrong. But what can you do? I want my degree and I can't let them bring me down.

[littleboys2008]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:56 AM

Some people think they know it all but if they knew it all then they wouldn't be in school and they would be the richest person in the world. I just laugh to myself when i meet people like that.

[MemawBrie]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:43 AM

I know exactly how you feel.  Self control and resisting the temptation to tell someone off when they're making fools of themselves is difficult.  But, the Bible tells us that if we answer a fool according to their folly, we'll just become like them. 

As hard as it is, biting our tongue is the wisest option.  I'm sure Jesus probably felt like unleashing on those who put Him down, but instead, He patiently endured trials, testings and hardships, realizing that God was in control and that everything was for His glory.

Although hard at times, the best thing to do is follow Christ's examples.  In the end, we can always trust God to do what is right and needful. He can and will always turn our difficult situation into what is glorifying to His Name, and you will be rewarded ;-)

He was oppressed and He was afflicted, Yet He did not open His mouth; Like a lamb that is led to slaughter, And like a sheep that is silent before its shearers, So He did not open His mouth. (Isaiah 53:7)

1 Peter 2:23 ...and while being reviled, He did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously;

[Momma_Halo]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:06 PM

I think I need to study Jesus more lol. I let my pride get in the way a lot and my anger. And I sometimes feel like I need to shut them up... I need to stop doing that. If I want to move forward in my life and be successful I need to give that up.

(Original Poster)

[MemawBrie]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 12:36 PM

Hey kiddo, it's totally human nature to have pride and anger.  Those  are the two fleshly sins we all struggle with the most.  We just need to know there's a right anger and a wrong anger. James tells us to "be angry yet do not sin."  It's OK to have righteous anger, like being angry about injustices, as long as we don't seek revenge...God says, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay." 

Now as for pride...it can have its place in our lives...but it can also "go before a fall."    There's nothing wrong with being proud of your accomplishments, or being proud of your kids, and such.  It's when we allow pride to rule us making us think more highly of ourselves than we ought to when it can be our downfall. 

I know pride and humility are polar opposites, yet, when we start to think we're being humble...we've actually crossed the line into pride.  KWIM?

[Guaranteed]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:54 PM

So, aside from forgiveness (lol, I know, the whole point) does the instructor allow these women to act this way? Because if the instructor is letting these women disrupt class, and in turn, your learning, that is a violation of the school's codes, I think. At my college, the teacher can make students leave their classrooms if the students are being disruptive and rude. You should check into that.

[Momma_Halo]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 1:57 PM

I think the school has warned them because they have been at this for some time. They are near graduation and have been a plague on our school. They have been talked to and even kicked out of classes but they refuse to give up their attitudes.

(Original Poster)

[MemawBrie]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 2:58 PM

Well, at least they'll be graduating soon and you won't have to deal with them much longer.  See, there's always light at the end of every tunnel ;-)

[Momma_Halo]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 4:35 PM

LOL you are right. I must look at the bright side of things.

(Original Poster)

[evwsquared]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 5:26 PM

My suggestion is to talk to the professor about different ways that class could be conducted or organized to limit their disruptive behavior. I know that he's aware of the problem already. There are different ways of leading class discussions, and it sounds like it's time to use one of them!

[Momma_Halo]

Jul. 1, 2009 at 5:27 PM

Yeah I agree.

(Original Poster)