jealousy can be deadly!!! (warning! very long vent!)

[youngmarriedmom]

so this past week my husband an i along with my 2yr old son took a trip down to florida wail he is on leave because he deploys in aug. well a while ago my husband an i got in a huge fight... needless to say we worked it out, BUT.. some how his mom either called or he called her.. either way she knew at the time we were fighting.. well this women hasnt been in a relationship since my husband was born, nor has she ever been married. fine w.e. her life i could care less.. until she calls me wail im cleaning an tells me i just need to clean an cook an do what he ask to keep him happy, hes deploying an very stressed out.. A - i suck at cleaning, but was in the process.. an it pissed me off that she said i need to clean B- why to be a good wife do i need to be his slave.. an where does she get off telling me how to live? C- him deploying an being stressed out.. uhh what about ME an our son.. am i not aloud to be stressed out that MY husband is leaving for a year... that someone who i see almost everyday, that i share a bed with is leaving, to a dangerous place i might add.. but i should remain calm cause HEs stressed out?! regardless.. i went off on her she had no right to tell me how to live or give any marital advice since she cant even make a relationship work. ive been married 3yrs an am only 19 of course were going to fight.. hell we both knew that the moment we said wed be boyfriend an girlfriend lol... so ne who.. our "friendship" hasnt been so good since then.. but uhh what did she expect in all honesty.. we had a "put it behind us an smile we we see each other" kinda mother an daughter in law relationship because we started off rocky in the begging to start with... ill share.. my husband came an picked me up one day wail i was preg an was taking me out to lunch well he picked up food for his mom, an when she realized after he dropped the food off to her that he was taking me out to eat she flipped an said " you cant take your own mother out to eat but you can take HER out" an he said well she is the mother of my unborn child.. an she said in reply "if you love her so much why dont you go live with her" an so instead of going to get food we went an got an apt.. sorta.. well in the end we lived to gether an i went to school an he worked.. i was 16 if you havent caught on by now.. so one day he asked how i felt about him joining the army.. i went into a balling cant talk shocked phase.. were i called my mom an sister an friends to help me face reality.. he had wanted to be a marine all his life but when we were dating i said id leave.. i want no part in it.. but here we where engaged expecting our first child, an he wanted to go to the army.. well it was one of the best choices weve made. his mom wasnt speaking to him at the time because of how things played out, an somehow him joining was my fault an i was a lil bitch. so we got married an my family was there, his mom refused to go an his brother was in jail. his dad.. well who knows.. so 10days later he was off to basic. he was gone maybe a month an it was his moms birthday, an to spite her i called an said happy birthday. an when he came home on leave we stayed in hotels (because when he left i moved in with my mom so i wouldnt be alone an preg) an on the 22nd of dec i had my son, i called an invited her when i went into labor, but she never showed up at the hospital so we took him to her.. an from that point on we were "friends?" lol well to snap out of the flashback.. here we are driving down to florida when she calls.. an he was on the phone maybe 5mins when his brother called* now in ny with a baby on the way ..hes come a long way from the days of jail lol* an ended up forgetting she was on the phone an talked to his brother bout 15mins. well on the way we stop to pick up one of the kids she now has custody of. he was about 3 hrs away from where she lived with her friends mom, an friends son. so we picked them up an brought them back down.. when we got in to my home town i had my husband drop me off at a friends with my son. we caught up on some life changing things in her life an my mil called saying in a joking tone "how could you bring him to her first" well me knowing her she was really jealous of the fact she wasnt the first to see him. she never wanted him to begin with but my dad has always been really excited since im his "baby" an he had 4girls an this was the first boy in our family lol.. so she usally comments on how my dad always comes before her. well in my an my husbands mind he takes better care of him when hes there. so anyways.. when we finally get there my son doesnt really know who she is.. an im not surprised. i dont tend to go around her cause it seems like since hes joined in her mind were rich or something.. an shes ALWAYS asking for something, money, groceries rides.. etc. ne ways.. his brothers ex is living with her an it was the first time i met her, well some how or another we ended up staying up all night talking. an she told me that my mil fliped out cause my husband an i went to the "sending off ball" an i got two dresses. an saying how could we be spending money on non necessary things, an we cant even send her a mothers day gift. well i spent under 60 for both dresses... an as for the mothers day bs.. i didnt get shit either.. an when did she start celebrating that.. she never did anything for her mom an now shes dead.. but since were in the army were suppose to get her something nice? are you kidding me.. she didnt get me shit.. my mom sent me money.. an a card... she didnt even call.. so wtf would she think id do something for her especially after harassing me telling me to remind him to get her something, uhh.. thats not how it works.. sorry. so any ways the "ex" tells me all about how my mil is jealous an all this bs.. well w.e. i dont really care lol. but as the week plays out she trys to take my son to go play out in the rain with his new shoes on, her excuse... the grounds hot an she doesnt want his feet to burn.. um well he doesnt need to play in the rain to begin with. an we got into a disagreement because i told her no. an she got all stank an said "dont you put them in the washer... whats the difference" well A i dont B if i did, they'd be getting clean.. an C id put them in the dry after, but since you have neither, its no worries... its not happening. she wasnt so happy about that. well the next thing that happen was that him an I went out to eat at "our" place.. an she told the ex " why cant he take his mom out to eat at LEAST once wail he's here".. im not sure why he would.. as rude as it might sound, if you knew his childhood.. u'd understand. an then we went over to a family friends house.. aka her friend.. an my son is afraid of pools since on memorial weekend he feel off the stairs at my husbands sgts house an right into the pool, of course i jumped in an got him before he had time to even breath in any water.. witch i was shocked he held his breath.. but hey. anyways she was mad cause i took him outside to "test the water" an came back in 5 mins later.. she taught i just wouldnt let him in the water.. but he just didnt want in.. an im ok with that im not going to push him into to his fears.. help him get over them yes.. but hes 2, we got plenty of time for that so.. well i was frustrated with her to begin with because she said she would watch our son wail we went out to the movies cause my husband really wanted to see the transformer movie that just came out.. so i had to ask my parents, who had no problem, but this was the second time she did this to us.. an she told her friend we would be over there like 30 mins before our movie started. so my husband said wed leave at 545, i said alright an went along with it, well she need a ride to the corner store for some cigs *WITCH SHE SMOKES AROUND MY SON an pisses me off to no end.. even when i ask her to re-frame from doing so* an my husband was taking my son so i went to hand him his shoes an shorts, an she goes... hes a kid its ok he can get away with it, an then gets to the door an goes "here josh carry him so his feet dont burn" why she didnt just let me put shoes on MY son idk.. but w.e. an before she left i said id go to that way we cld just drop her off an head out.. an she was like "hes coming back you dont need to go, its not like hes going forever" i just faked smiles .. well when they got back she goes "see bay we drove super fast just for you" an smiles an touched my arm i hate her lil sly fucking comments, an then she calls me bay? what are we in a rap song or something.. your 50 an im not ur gf .. so dont call me "pet names" well we left an had a fun time, we got back to her house after picking my son up from my parents an she lockd the door so we had to wait for someone to come unlock it. well it was the ex who did, an her an i got to talking an she said she was pissed at me because i told her that i wasnt bringing my son to busch gardens with us that coming sat, cause i didnt feel comfortable with him being there. an how her sister wasnt going to be able to spend time with my son.. well im pretty sure i was there a year ago, an he was with me.. where was she then. an i dont know her sister, why would i trust my son with someone i dont know.. so i guess she was all mad cause i said no. well im sorry but its my son an what i say goes.. yes you may have an opinion, but its mine an my husbands that matters. an of course he wont stand up to his mom, cause he rather just not deal with it. just like how she gave him a pizza.. *my son* no big deal right? WRONG. he cant have dairy.. hes lactose intolerant. well thats not the first time shes done it either. when my son was a yr old she took him to the beach an gave him soy milk out in the heat.. an then i found his sippy cup with soda in it.. are u kidding me? ugh i hate this women with a passion so i stop letting her watch him after she started lying to me about it cause i asked her not to. well ne ways the next night she serves everyone food, an oh what a surprise she didnt have enough for me, so i went to my moms an got pop eyes chicken an some home made lasagna .. for me an my husband, the first thing she said to me was.. i dont suppose u bought me any.. of course i didnt, but i politely said, na my parents gave it to me. an left it at that.. then the next night, she cooks chicken, an everyons was fine, but mine was a lil pink. an ask anyone who knows me.. i freak out on it.. idk why maybe i died from it in a past life of something lmao.. but i smiled an just pretend i didnt notice an cont. to eat it.. an that night my friend invited us to the movies her treat.. so we went an i ended up throwing everything up in a public bathroom cause i just couldnt hold it down any longer well the next day she hid the tooth paste, an some how my toothbrush ended up behind her toilet.. YUCK, so i went an got a new one.. an my own toothpaste.. my husband just cont to say sorry the whole time.. well we went to the beach an had a good time, an came home to her bitching about something i dont even know i just tune her out now lol.. but the next morning our last morning, her front tire was flat lol.. karma's a bitch i got to tell you. cause in the time of being there she drove my car, an had my husband give her money for food since we were staying there.. even know she invited us.. but w.e. i held my tongue an just chewed his ear off when we got alone time. well now were home.. an things have "calm" down..aka im ignoring her lol.. ok well i had to vent thanks for reading my long long an possibly annoying vent.