I REALLY want to add on 3 more kids, but financially I dont know if I can handle it...**Please vote pop - I need a LOT of advice!!**

[MunchiesMom324]

Ok, so here's the deal.  No, I do NOT want to suffer 3 more miserable pregnancies just to deliver increasingly huge babies.  However... my cousin Mandy has these 3 *adorable* kids, who kinda mirror my own.  Her kids are (behaviorally challenged) Jesse at 5 years old, Hannah is 3, and her baby Landon is just 4 months old, while I have behaviorally challenged 6yr old Alex, 17 mo old Jake and 3 month old Ben. 

I found out last night that she is TRYING to get her kids taken away... she abuses her husband (beat him with a broom handle yesterday too) and she tried to get her mom (my aunt R)  to take at least one of the kids back to Massachusets with her.... and told her that if she didn't have the $ for a return ticket, then just enroll him in school up there.

What kind of mother...???  Those kids deserve to be in a family where they are wanted.  They don't need to see the abuse that goes on... They dont deserve that crap.   I love those kids, and what they are going through.... its terrible.  Their dad doesn't abuse Mandy - he takes his frustrations out on the kids.  Yeah... but they also don't deserve what would happen if they got put "in the system".  They would be split up, Jesse would spend his whole life in a boys home because of his behavior problems... That, and my aunt R has lost contact with her other set of grandkids b/c her son is a jerk... she didn't get to raise her own kids because she was bad into drugs and stuff... I can't see my aunt hurt by the state taking away her kids...  She would take them, but she and her hubby (and his daughter every other weekend) share a 1BR apartment.  They really don't have room for those kids.

Which brings me to my problem...  I'm currently living in a *small* 2br house... (that's right, me, DF, and 3 kids in a 2 br...) and have a car that I can't even fit my current family of 5 into. We are looking for a bigger house... and a bigger vehicle (like, say, a school bus?) ... I'm working and DF just got a job to where we won't be completely broke anymore... it's not like we'll be millionaires - but we would finally be no longer struggling to survive.

If you were in my shoes... once you got on your feet again, would you take in those kids?  I really do love them, and I wanted more children, (I've especially always wanted a girl)... or do I just let their mother continue her crap until one day she just puts them all on the side of the road and leaves them there?  What would you do? 

[vintagechicken]

Jul. 3, 2009 at 8:55 AM

That's hard to say.  I think you are the only one that knows how much more you can put on your plate without having things fall off.  I think you are a wonderful person for even contemplating it.  They would certainly be blessed to be with you and I'm sure they would be a blessing to you also.     

[MunchiesMom324]

Jul. 3, 2009 at 8:56 AM

I also would like to add that I already have someone that will help me with the kids... just my3 or all 6 of them.  That way I wouldn't have to worry about daycare expenses...

(Original Poster)

[knagsmom]

Jul. 3, 2009 at 2:30 PM

i think if u can do it and want to u should. i wanted to take in a friends daughter, but her mother wouldnt let me and now i dont know where she is.