This right here is what drives me batty!! When do I get a life??

[singedwingangel]

As I have stated before I care for my household along with my mothers. She is still recovering from her busted knee and is unable to care for herself in many things, since she is not allowed to be on the leg for extended periods. She was already needing help in lots of things, but this kind of floored here even more. In the midst of caring for her I am supposed to also care for my kids and my house and do all the errands.

Hubby is off today and we were gonna go grocery shopping. So we are taking mom to allow her out of the house as well. Tomorrow we were invited to come as a family to a fair in the next county over. I am going to be judging the baby show.  We will have to be in Flemingsburg by 10 am to follow my gf and her hubby to the fair site. We get all day access to the pool. We plan on being home around 4 or so. However, this means mom will be alone up here all day. Now of course, mom tells me not to worry about it to go and have fun. How can I do that when I know that she will be here alone.. what if she falls, her sugar drops, something like that. She is unable to drive herself anywhere..

I am doing everything else for her, and here. She will not let me call my sisters who live nearby, and who do nothing for her as a rule, unless they are going to gain somethign from it.

So now I feel like we have to go do this and get home ASAP so mom has someone here.. I would never forgive myself if somethign happened and I was not nearby to help her or get her help.. GRRRR

When do I get a break??

[imamombygrace]

Jul. 3, 2009 at 4:09 PM

I feel for you Angel.  I don't think it is very fair for you to have to carry the whole load by yourself.  But, I have been there and done that with my Dad.

Would her insurance maybe cover a nurse that comes to her home for X amount of hours a day.  I know my Dad's coverage does..but, his is covered under VA.  He refuses his in home nurse and now they are really pushing for hospice care..he is refusing that as well.  I think it's more of my mom..b/c she wouldn't have access to his meds any longer freely and she would have to clean her home.  If they can do that it would give you a tiny amount of a break.

I will be keeping you in my prayers..it sounds exhausting.  Judge some pretty babies and have fun for the day.

[KristiS11384]

Jul. 3, 2009 at 4:14 PM

((HUGS)) I have no words other than how amazing you are to care for your mother and your family like you do!

[cappacarol298]

Jul. 3, 2009 at 7:38 PM

I have a different situation my parents have decided that dealing with special needs is something they are not able ot do so we have established a circle of friends that we hope will help us take care of Daniel and have taught him to accept that some things are not in our control so you see there are different types of stress for all of usgood luck tommorow and enjoy your independence day 

Cappacarl 298