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wtf is her problem!?
- Jul 4, 2009 at 8:11 AM
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Okay so here lately i have been having problems with my mother in law. shes always not loved my son and chosen to do stuff for my daughter and not him. Great okay whatever i cant make her love him. so there is this family reunion type thing going on this weekend for my husbands family. Im already stressed out cause of my issues with her there are many, and the fact that I dont really like being around his family cause they act like they are better than everyone else and their kid is the best kid etc etc so we were over there yesterday and my kids came to me wanting to eat and I asked them if they want a chicken leg and they both said yes my mil decided to pipe in with "say yes ma'am" and they both looked at me like they were confused cause I dont make them say ma'am, they have to say yes please and thank you and all the other stuff I dont make them say ma'am and sir. and she knows this. so I told them you dont have to say ma'am. and she knows this we ahve had thsi discussion a million times and she goes "its rude to not make them say ma'am" and i say im not raising machines. and then she starts to say "you shouldn't have kids if you wont teach them to be polite" of course i didnt let her finish i took the kids outside and left cause i didnt want an all out arguemnt. cause i would of put all her dirty laundry out there and then she really would have been pissed. Theya re my kids not hers and dammit if i say they dont have to say ma'am then guess what they dont. i dont say it and ill be damned if my kdis are gonna say it. My husband then got mad at me cause i couldnt let it go and im sure someone is gonna say i should have but i just couldnt every time she is around her family she turns into this model citizen and all she freakin does is sleep and work and smoke pot and drink. she doesnt have a hobby she doesnt even grocery shop she just brings home leftovers form her work at a restaurant. hell she doesnt even clean her own house she makes the lady that lives with her do it all. and maybe tats part of the rent i dont know but she sleeps smokes and works thats it and when she gets around the family she turns into this other famly and makes me look like a bad mother cause i wont make them say maam or sir. Im still the same person i was yesterday when i wouldnt make them say are you? god she just really pissses me off. Thanks for the vent!
Tags: mil, family, manners, vent, reunion, kids, children, party
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My kids don't really say mam or sir. Like your kids, they say yes please, thank, etc. I always get compliments on how polite my kids are.
Good for you for leaving. I would have been more upset with my hubby though..
At least you're not a push over, but I would really ignore her, and walk away. Explain to the children like you do do when they are confused, but Ignore her.
I think it really depends on your up bringing and what state you live in,also, older women,grandmothers, older aunts,always should be address as madam in some states ,my in-laws are from South Carolina,everybody says yes madam, even, I say ,yes madam and yes sir,but,my kids and grand-kids don't,their manners speaks for them,we just came back from vacation on Friday,everyone spoke well of my DD and grands.Is there a way your kids can say yes madam,when they are addressing their grand-mom,howdo your DH address his mother,if,he is saying yes madam ,it does make a difference,but,if he isn't,than your MIL should back off. If, this continue to bother you and your kids,explain it to them,like I just tried to.Good luck.
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Stick to your beliefs. My kids never called me Ma'am! I would have HATED that, they call me mommy and still till this day as adults they call me mommy.