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I hate being a mom of a 2yr old!
- Jul 6, 2009 at 12:09 PM
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I know that title sounds harsh and I LOVE my 2yr old to pieces but sometimes hate being the mom of one. As many moms of 2yr olds know, its a learning process and it can be a long and torturous one.
I hate being a mom of a 2yr old because it seems that no matter where we go, I seem to require unsolicited advice on how to raise or discipline my toddler. In church we have been trying to get her to sit through the entire service because they dont want 2yr olds in the nursery, so we have no where to take her. As of today, she can successfully sit through a service with minimal outbursts but there are still some days she is just going to push it as far as she can go. So here we are at church and she is being fawned over because she is just so darn cute in her dress, and then here it comes. I was told I should read the book "how to raise a strong willed child" by so so author. A mom of a 19yr old girl told me its what got her through tough times. Hmmm, ok let me take that under advisement....thanks for sharing I thought. LOL
So this weekend was no different, here I was about 200 miles away from home and I am still getting advice. My dad seems to think spanking is the key to all good behavior from children, if you spank them hard enough...they wont forget and they wont do it again. Oh and you should also make them aware that you will beat them down with a good spank IN PUBLIC just so they know to behave there as well. Ah alas, I have told the old man spanking does NOT work for every situation and where she is concerned, its not working at all. If she is in full meltdown mode, a spanking will do nothing but prolong it and no one wants that. Now given the fact that she is 2, her daddy and I have been playing around with different things to see what works. So to the outside world and everyone with "motherly advice" this is viewed as being inconsistent. "You must be firm with the child", "you must stick to your guns" I've been told.....yeah yeah I got it.....ENOUGH already! Back to this weekend, I am visiting family and after a 4hr car ride I finally get there and my 4yr old son seems off. He is cranky, he's doing everything he can to irritate people...throwing things, yelling, being sassy...ugh! Then I hear my stepmom tell my dad "he's been in a car seat for four hours, he's entitled to have one day to be a brat, he's tired and having a bad day and it happens". Yeah ok I can see that and after a good night's rest he was back to my happy go lucky boy the next day and was so pleasant the rest of the trip. My 2yr old tho, well she woke up with me and was fine all morning till the rest of the group woke up. She started to have little crying fits here and there and once at the table for breakfast she really let loose. I removed her from the table and took her to our room to calm her and get her to use her words and not yell. She's calm, I take her back to the table and she says she wants more food in her bowl. When I returned with her bowl with her eggs, she has a meltdown all over again! This is where I have now been told I need the Supernanny, her no nonsense approach works with kids like Annabeth (my DD) and parents like myself (meaning what? I've lost control of my child?). So this opens up a 20 minute conversation in which people are tag teaming against me and my parenting skill all the while my child is screaming her head off and I am getting frustrated. Just when I was about to pack my kids up and just drive somewhere, they pulled back and began to try and HELP the situation and not just throw fuel on the fire. SO lets recap shall we? My 4yr old is "entitled" to have a bad day and be grumpy, my 2yr old well she is too little I guess to be moody or irritable and she needs the supernanny to whip her butt into shape. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
I think maybe in the best interest of my kids and my sanity I need to move to a cabin in the wilderness where I can raise my kids (fits and all) till they are of age to be appropriately introduced as productive members of society. Maybe I need a t-shirt that claims I am a mom of a fit throwing, talks at the top of her lungs, sweet, lovable and huggable 2yr old girl, no advice needed or wanted on her behavior or attitude in any way whatsoever! Ok so maybe I dont hate being the mom of a 2yr old, maybe I just hate the unsolicited advice or the unwanted stares from people who have obviously forgotten what they went through when their children were two.
Thanks for sticking with my rant :)
here she is in full fit mode, luckily this was in the backyard so we were safe from the "advice patrol"
and this is how I see her, she is so sweet and loving most of the time and she will say "God bless you" when you sneeze...awwww I just LOVE HER TO PIECES attitude and ALL!
Comments:
Man do I know what you're talking about. My youngest is 2, and SOOO good at it. Some days I think we should just hide in a cave or something until he learns how to adjust the volume of his voice, control his ever changing emotions, walk without falling into everything, and have bodily functions without announcing it to the world. Yet, my oldest is almost 13, and it's like we're right back to square one with him too. Call me crazy, but I love it. I could do without the critics myself, but every once in a while someone actually has some good advice.
your post made me laugh because i'm dealing with the same things! i completely feel your pain!! us moms have to stick together! if you find something that works, let me know. spanks work sometimes, but not all the time around here.
and i love annabeth, fits and all! and i love dalton, back-talk and all! LOL
I just love the advice patrol. No matter how you do it, it should have been done the other way. Or my absolute favorite, "You can't discipline your kid like that!" only to have them do it to their kid twenty seconds later. HUGS!!!
I love your journal...your two year-old sounds like my ds. You sound like a wonderful mommy!! Kids will be kids and two year-olds will be two year-olds and .....this too shall pass. Listen to your own advice cause mommy knows best....they did forget what their child was like at two and they don't have the joy of knowing your darling child quite as well as you do.
You said everything and more in that post!!! I love it!!!I feel that way alot. My daughter is almost always in a bad mood lol. Not really but it seems like it. And of course I am doing it wrong but the way I look at it if I was so wrong then someone would have stepped in by now!! So people just need to back off and let me raise my children the way I want not the way they see fit. Once again your post was great!!! Bravo and I give it 5 stars :)
Great post, Heather-and #20 right now! Love the photos too. You tell a good story. It's true, you're in the middle of one of those trying times that others seem to totally forget about. You'll get through it!! I know how you feel, been there and survived!!
Sorry you got ganged up on! That stinks! Especially when its family!! Girl, it doesnt matter what kind of mother you are, there is always going to be someone who thinks they can do it better. Don't worry, you will find what works for you, me on the other hand...:) I love the two pics at the end, they say it all.
Totally agree with your post!! Btw what kind of camera did you use?Such clarity!
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You don't need a SuperNanny, because you are a SUPER MOMMY! and if you ever make that T-Shirt can you make me one for my 4 year old??? Hugs!
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Terrible 2's oh boy no fun at all. She takes a fit let her have her fit walk away till she is done. She gets no rise out of you then she may think twice about throwing another fit.
I remember those days well. Doesn't seem tht long ago tht my girls were 2.
You do the best tht you can do. Advice is advice you take it or leave it. To family members maybe they need to just mind there bussiness, LMAO ya right!
You know I would rather be dealing with a 2 y/o fits right now then head lice, yuck :(
- Judmr
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