In tears

[Jerichos_Mommy]

I just read the journal and newpaper post abut the  Indiana mother whose daughters died due to a car accident in may.  I can not believe all the people blaming the mom.  These people have no idea the pain in her heart.  They have no clue the million "what ifs" will go through her mind every day.  They don't know how everytime she sees a girl her daughters's age or age they would have been, how her heart will tear apart again.  They don't know that in 20 years she will read or hear something that brings that terrible day back just as if it were yesterday and her heart will tear open again.

They don't know this but I DO.  I lost two babies to SIDS July 14 will be the 20th anniversary of my daughter's death she was 2 months 1 week.  My son Robert died at 4 months 19 days in 1991.  Yesterday I sent links on SIDS to a felow CMer through a group post.  One site I found has an angel room where you can write to your baby.  I wanted so bad t write to Mandalynne and Robert but I can't because the pain is still too raw.  And then I see these heartless comments.    I wish I could just hug this mother and give her some comfort.  I wish I could see a baby and only think how beautiful s/he is.  I can't the first thing that I think/feel when I see a baby is "please don't let this be a SIDS".

Why can't people just stop judging and comfort this mother?

[Irelyn]

Jul. 10, 2009 at 8:27 AM

First off I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I don't understand the world today where we go around blaming and cutting down people. I can't understand her or your pain but I know if I lost one of my kids it would kill me. This world def needs more peace! Hugs!

[Jerichos_Mommy]

Jul. 10, 2009 at 4:35 PM

Thank you.  I wish the mom's here and on the news site I read that article on were like you.  If I could have one wish it would be that no parent ever feel that pain.

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