OH MY! Why in the hell can't they just leave me alone

[ToshaCooper]

Some of you have probably already read this because its also in  The CafeMom Newcomers Club / Newcomers Club - Active discussion

A little background information:

My real mother got ALL of her children taken because she choose men over her kids. When I was in foster care I decided that I'd give her another chance (since her rights wasn't taken away on me) we had visits every week and they went good until I got into my own place with my daughter (I went in pregnant and had her with me the whole time) then it become HELL. She called me while I was at college heading to my other class and told me that her boyfriend was beating on her. So I took my daughter to a friends while I went and got the cops to go and get my mom with me. She came with me and we went back to my house and I called the cops out and explain to them what was going on and they was watching the neighbor hood. A few hrs later she went in my bathroom and started crying and came back in the front room and sat down in the chair and my daughter at this time was 2yrs old and she went to give her grandmother a hug and SHE PUSHED HER AWAY so I told her to go play in her room. And my mom and I had a few words and she told me that I needed to take her back home and I told her that I went and got her out of that shit so if she wanted to go back home then there was the door. So she goes and starts walking and she was gone for about 30mins or so and I hear a knock at my door and I open it and its her and she's all mudding. And tells me that I really need to take her back home since I went and got her before he throws her shit out of the door. So I told her that if I have to wake my daughter up and take her ass back home to that sorry SOB that she WOULDN'T ever see her grandchild(ren) again and she said fine thats what I want. So I told her to get her ass in the car and not say a word. After that I didn't see her for 3yrs BUT her and her SOB boyfriend was calling and txting my phone harrassing me.

On Valentine's Day this yr...my SIL, her daughter, and my two girls where at walmart getting things so we could grill out. And all of a sudden I see THEM BOTH right in front of me yelling my name so I go on the other aisle and they started calling me names and yelling them in front of everyone. And we just kept on walking. I was so mad!

Then I call one of the family friends and they told her that I ran out of walmart and I didn't have my girls with me. And said that if I had Hailey (my oldest) with me that she would have yelled Grandma Grandma. I just laughed because when Hailey heard them yelling and seen them she looked at me and said Momma who is that?

With that said...heres what happen about two or three weeks ago.

First of all, I already told my real dad and grandma that I don't have anything to do with them and to NOT give out my information no matter what.

I called my grandma about 1p and she told me that I just missed my mom and her SOB (she hasn't called or even seen my grandma in 4yrs). She said that they stayed for about 20-30mins and this is what was said...

real mom/her SOB: Have you heard from Tosha?

real dad/grandma: nope, not since her graduation in 07.

real mom/her SOB: Well she didn't even send me and invitation. Have you seen the grandchildren? You do know she got married right?

real dad/grandma: I've seen Hailey at Tosha's graduation and thats it, but I haven't seen the new baby. Yes I knew she got married.

real mom/her SOB: Do you know where she lives? Do you have her phone number?

real dad/grandma: Nope, I don't know where she lives. And I don't know her phone number because we haven't talked to her since her graduation.

real mom/her SOB: Well we are looking for her and we will find her. And something will happen to her. We just live 2 towns away from Searcy.

real dad/grandma: You better not fucking lay a hand on her or the grandchildren. And you better get the hell out of my house and not come back.

I freaked out because if they live 2 towns away from Searcy that means that are just 3 towns from us. We live in the county and the cops have already told my husband (once before...before we got together) that if someone comes in the yard and tries to harm then shoot them and call them out because it'll take 30mins-1hr to get to my house. My husband is wanting me to learn how to shoot a gun. We have 2 dogs that are very protective and they stay right beside the porch so they won't be able to get close unless they shoot my dogs first. I'm still freaking out about it because I've had to go to the cops once before because they were harrassing again and they said that her SOB does have a recorded and they couldn't do anything about it unless I had evidence.

What would you ladies do?

[mom2_3blessings]

Jul. 13, 2009 at 3:36 AM

wow crazy learn to shoot the shot gun i have 357 for protection we live in alaska and I am all for guns but I think she is just talking crazy, but you would be wise to stay calm and keep alert.

[Lb128f]

Jul. 13, 2009 at 5:47 AM

Get a Protective Order. And, be careful.

[RufNekQueen]

Jul. 13, 2009 at 6:54 AM

WOW! You are a lot calmer than I would be. First off, getting a protective order would probably just give her your address. Second, a protective order is a piece of paper. If you get the order and it takes up to an hour for the cops to get there...it's best to just be on your guard since it could just anger her more. I wish you the best of luck and remember, as a mother, you have every right to do whatever you need to do to protect yourself and your children.

[MSugarKane]

Jul. 13, 2009 at 7:39 AM

The police are right , they can't do anything without evidence or until someone breaks the law. 

File for a protective order ASAP.  The order isn't going to help you much if they do show up at your home BUT it will help if something does happen.  BUT also know they will know your address if you file the order because they will have to stay 500 feet from the property line.  

 

 

[sonnyswoman75]

Jan. 15, 2010 at 2:24 PM

I agree you need a Protective order so if they pull anything stupid you guys wont get in trouble.Good luck!

[CHRISTY58981487]

Oct. 28, 2011 at 2:22 PM

GET A PPO , AND  I AGREE WITH EVERYBODYELSE TO TAKE A GUNS SAFTEY CLASS. GOOD LUCK. CHRISTY