So my supposed best friend, up and decided that apprently we aren't close anymore. She can't talk to me, I am always too busy. ( I have a three month old).

So she pulled some things that were completely childish, deleting me and my SO as her friends on Myspace, sending a party cancelation notice to only me. (8 other people were on the original invite) Blogging about her being mad at me.


The thing is, she is the one that preaches about communication...yet all this came out of the blue. I couldn't fix what i didn't know was wrong.

So after a lot of soul searching...and a lot of tears, I stepped away from the friendship. I am really mixed up...I feel better in a sense, because I feel lighter. But I feel sick because this is the one person I never thought would put me in this position.

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Jul. 15, 2009 at 3:41 PM

Sending ((hugs)) to you, I know how hard it is when a friend does something like this..... don't beat yourself up!  Hope that things get better!

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Jul. 15, 2009 at 3:42 PM

Sadly when we become mother's we no longer connect with certain friends on the sam elevel we used to. It doesn't mean they are wrong or we are wrong, merely that our paths have led us in different directions and our priorities have changed. One day your friend will have the same thing happen to her and she will come to you for understanding.

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Jul. 15, 2009 at 4:23 PM

Yeh it happens more times than not - sad that friends don't understand the importance of motherhood, and that it is different from mom to mom - but they will some day

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Jul. 15, 2009 at 4:25 PM

The thing that I don't get is she has three kids, 6, 15, and 23.

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Jul. 15, 2009 at 7:10 PM

Could be she has gotten used to "older" children so she no longer understands how much attention the little ones need.

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Jul. 16, 2009 at 11:07 AM

I don't know, but she gave be an ultimatum, which I didn't get until this morning because my phone was off, she left a voicemail at like 9 last night, (I work really early so i am usually in bed) and said if I didn't call her tonight (last night) she was going to take it as I didn't wnat anything to do with her.

She also said that she is sorry I took what she said so personally...UMM it was an attack on me, so ya think?

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