My son will start preschool in august and I'm going to start my third semester in college. When I had my son I was 15 and was always in school and got a job as soon as I was able to. I'm very independent and have held a job since then... and been in school. It's starting to get to me realllllly bad because I've already had to miss so much time with him. It's really confusing because I know it's all for a good cause and I'm glad that I'm trying to make more of myself and do what I can for my son being a single mom and all.. At the same time I'm like... I've missed so much of the great times I could have had with him... and now he's starting school and I am and it's just like... I don't know. I'm sad. I'm happy. I'm confused. I also work three 12 hour night shifts at a hospital so i pretty much miss those three days with him completely as well.. My family wants me to get a "normal" job but then it don't seem much like it'd help... work 9-5 then go to school... it seems to me like i'd have less time but heck I don't know. lol Any advice? It's getting to be really stressful and hard on me. Working then when I'm not working im doing homework ( I take fulltime classes as well) trying to keep the house clean and my son taken care of and spending as much time with him as I can. I do okay usually... but last semester I totally just broke down and cried for an hour or so because it was like... BLAHHHHHH. I feel weak right now and I don't like that feeling. Being a single parent can be so extremely stressful. I admire all single mothers. Very strong women, I know. lol

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Jul. 19, 2009 at 2:37 PM didn't mention a man so i'm going to assume you are a single mom. i'm not a single mom i have a husband but he works fulltime..i plan on starting school this fall. and putting my 2 boys in daycare..really hard to do sicne i've been a stay at home mom for almost 4 years! plus i'll be having another baby over christmas break!!!  i hope i can be as strong as you. i have stressed myself out just thinking about it...being student, wife, and mom..still not sure how i'm going to do it..but liek you its got to be done!

goodluck keep your head up you know you are doing ti for the right reasons!

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Dec. 12, 2009 at 8:41 PM

I didn't read your message thoroughly so if I ask a stupid question that's why... what kind of job do you have? Is it a nursing job? If so you should try and get night shift on weekends. Where I live they pay you more when you wok nights and they pay you even more when you work weekends. You would lose sleep and have to live off f coffee but you would see your son more and possibly make more money. (not sure what you'r making now) I know you can do it! :D my sister has a friend that is a single mom of a 7,5, & 1 yr old. She's a nurse and has her own house (trailor but it's decent) and she' in school. I honestly don't see how some of you moms do what you do so if I could give you a hug I wuld because I haven't had it as hard as you have! keep yu head up chickie! :D 

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