I wish they had a mind cleanse

[zarias_mommy]

They have all of these products, colon cleanse, kidney cleanse, full body cleanse but nothing to cleanse your mind. 

I have been with my current boyfriend (my daughters father) for about 4 years now and we have a great relationship.  I honestly couldnt ask for a better bf.  He is understanding, never looses his cool and is just a very laid back type of person.  I love him dearly but I can't help but bring things that have happened in some of my past relationships into this one. 

I trust him with my life and yet and still I find it necessary to question what he is doing when we are not together, when he is out with his friends.  I can't seem to seperate our relationship from my relationships in the past.  I feel like once that happens I will be happier and our relationship will be stronger.  Now he feels like I dont trust him at all because I always ask questions about what he is doing and why?  I need to just let my past go...but of course it is easier said than done.,... I just want to be free and clear of all of the added bullshit that I bring to the table by using my past as my present.  He is defiantely not like any of my exes and I love him for that...but why do I treat him like he is just the same....

How do I seperate the past from my present.????  I need to do this immediately but what can I do that will allow me to let that stuff go.  I have no idea what to do anymore....maybe I should just breathe and pray that I can let it go...

 

[grapestewart]

Apr. 27, 2007 at 9:55 AM

Sweety, does your bf know about your past relationships and how they were for you?  Everyone has baggage that they bring into a relationship, that doesn't make you a bad person.  Let him know WHY you feel the way you do.  Are you able to communicate openly and freely with him?  I had a very difficult time, and STILL do at times, with my 2nd (and final!) husband because of all the sh** that my Ex put me through.  My husband George is so great though that he understands that I have issues from the past and I understand that he does as well.  We just try to talk openly and honestly about how we feel and try to cut each other some slack.  We've done a lot of work on our relationship but it is definitely worth it!!! Don;t beat yourself up over this.  Try to talk to him and let him know what is going on inside your head- he may surprise you!!!

Good luck!