Bedtime Should Be Coupletime

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Are you a night owl married to an early bird? Maybe you're the one up with the sun while your boyfriend's habits are decidedly nocturnal. Different bedroom schedules can rob you of important quality time together. Going to bed at the same time allows you to connect in more ways than one — you get in sync physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and gain valuable cuddling time at the beginning and end of the day.

There are always going to be days — even weeks — when life goes by so fast you feel like roommates, not lovers. When you make a shared bedtime an essential part of your daily ritual, you ensure that you and your partner have some time each day to rekindle your passion for each other.

Really make an effort to turn in together, as hard as it may sound. It's one of the best choices you can make for a good night's sleep and gives you and your partner a moment for each other. Make a point to snuggle when you first get into bed. Connect, touch, and talk. After a little while, if one person wants to go to sleep, the other can read, write in a journal, or quietly listen to music with headphones. Eye masks and reading lights make it easy to avoid disturbing the other person.

Strengthen and maintain the bond between you by hitting the sheets together, each and every night. Sweet dreams!

By Dr. Laura Berman