how do u get friends to understand...u have kids..

[tabbys4]

ok i have a friend who dosent understand i have kids its always just go do this or that..i cant i have the kids..so. well to do that i have to take all the kids and it can be a pain. or come over i cant kids will be going to bed soon ohh let them stay up a little its ok. and i tell my dh and we both agree we cant wait for her to have kids so she will see u just cant do anything. there was one time she was supose to go out with us on sat night ( i had a sitter ) and she never showed needless to she went out the night before with her fience so when she called me she said again come over. i said nope were out and gonna have a few drinks..well u can have a few drinks here.. understand we never get to go out let alone have a few drinks so were taken the chance to do so. she got pissy because we didnt want to sit in her house. so again it comes to i cant wait for her to see that u just cant go out when u feel like it like on a tues. or a thurs.  and that when u have a chance to have a sitter and go out u dont want to sit in someones house u want out...like movies....or taken a really nice long walk. what are your thoughts..what would u say or do? i keep telling dh that one day im gonna drop the kids off at her house and were gonna run away for a weekend and see how well she deals and even goes food shoping lol.

[MommaMidget19]

Jul. 21, 2009 at 9:08 AM

I have to say all of our friends are supportive of when we say we can't because DS is sleeping, or we can't get a sitter in 10 min to go out, they are all ok well we will call you later and we'll make plans.  If we did have friends who were not supportive and didn't get it then we would tell them to see ya and well get with you when WE can.

[chinamom_2]

Jul. 21, 2009 at 9:18 AM

I work nights, hubby works days -- we share the care of our girls without a sitter.  So there is no "pick up and go".   We take parenting very seriously (and probably SHOULD go out more).  But our girls are only little once.... there's time for everything else later.

Our friends don't understand that I work weekends.   It drives me crazy! 

Yeah, I bet you can't wait until your friend has kids.  T hen you and dh can sit back and laugh....life will change as she knows it.

[gingercakegirl]

Jul. 21, 2009 at 1:36 PM

Dropping kids to her house? Oh, that is a great idea. I'm sure that will be the certain way her to understand more than explaning to her ;) I have a single friend. She drives me crazy sometimes too.

I'll do it!