So I have realized after reading many many siggies that some moms have STRANGE things to be proud of. If your parenting varies from another person's you are supposed to be proud of it??
Pride is defined as Pleasure or satisfaction taken in an achievement, possession, or association...ok makes sense right
SO I can understand how doing something REALLY good for your kids can make you proud of yoruself...like breastfeeding-takes alot of work, isn't easy, not everyone has the time, patience, support or knowledge to do it....ok be proud of it. Rear facing past the legal limit-ok well its proven 5 times safer so I can see being proud of it. Being a SAHM-not all moms can handle it, the stress is alot, it takes patience, and energy some moms can't handle being SAHMs so ok be proud of it
Here's what I don't understand...if you choose not to BF or can't for whatever reason....you formula feed-ok I did that eventually with my older 2 kids, was I "proud" of it? NO..in fact I never thought of it as an achievement or got any satisfaction from it at all so nope not proud of it, even while I was doing it. I don't understand the Proud formula feeders...YAY you feed your child...ok want a cookie? Proud Cry it out moms-ok so you feel pride in leaving your child to cry for long periods of time?? I'm not talking the whimper or fuss til asleep but the crying for hours mom and dad never go in to check kinda CIO moms...you know the ones who brag about being Proud CIO moms-I don't get that being something to be proud of..is that an achievement?? How about parents who proudly Forward face at a year...well I guess its an achievement that you made it to a year RFing, but being proud of Forward facing and increasing your childs risks of death in a car accident 5 times...seriously NOT an achievement in any way.
Whats next Proud parent of a bully? Proud junk food feeding mom? Proud neglectful mom??
Seriously you do what you have to do to raise your kids, its every parents choice as to how to raise them, BUT to be proud of things that take NO work, NO real achievement to do...yeah you do them, it doesn't mean you should be "proud" of them..be proud of your children for their achievements sure, be proud of what you work hard to do for your kids, but seriously people
*NOTE I am not saying anyone is a bad mom for their choices, every mom has their own situation and their own choices, I'm just saying people seem to misunderstand being proud...