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One mom's trials
- Jul 27, 2009 at 1:34 AM
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My son ran away yesterday and I'm definitely feeling the pain. No matter how hard we try to connect with him and keep the communication open, he shuts us off. Obviously, I'm concerned for his safety, but at the same time, I'm heartbroken and angry at his selfishness. He never shows any interest in having a relationship with us or any other family members.
He's skateboarder and all his friends have replaced us. We have always tried to provide a haven for him & his friends to hang out, but because we take a stand against drugs & alcohol, we're no longer the "cool" parents.
Someday I hope he realizes how much family matters. I could see his running away if we fought all the time, abused him or were just really incompetent parents, but we're not & we don't. We have lived for our kids, made many personal sacrifices and continue to support them in every way we can. We are so hurt by this, but he'll probably never know how much. I guess every parent has to endure some kind of hurt or pain, just as all children do while growing up whether it's caused by family or some other circumstance.
He's always been independent from the time he was a newborn. I guess he's just following the path that he's meant to be on for better or worse. He's not really bad kid underneath, and in fact, he's probably pretty typical in some ways, but it's still hard to watch him make choices that you know are going to make things harder for him in the future (substance/ alcohol abuse, flirting with gang membership, defying authority- including the cops). Somehow, we just can't reach his inner core. He keeps it locked up and very rarely shows us what's inside. Maybe someday all our hard work will pay off. Well, pray for us. We need it.
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Thanks for your support, knagsmom!!
You may not think your part of his inner core, but you are. Some children just have the need to cut the apron strings and go out in the world on thier own. But believe me, you have instilled many good qualities inside him and he will take them with him and use them when most needed in his life.
I commend you on taking a stance against drugs and alcohol. There need to be more parents as strong as you. Your son cannot stay away forever. He'll probably come to his senses soon. How old is he? Good luck - I'm praying for you.
UPDATE!!!
My son came home after 8 days and has somewhat of a changed for the better attitude. We still don't know all the details of how his week away went. I know he stayed with an older friend of his & his parents. I just wanted to thank you ALL again for you support & prayers while I was so worried. It really meant a lot to me.
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awww im sorry i hope he comes home soon
- knagsmom
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