Desmond

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Desmond Samuel was born Thursday 7-23-09 at 8:14 a.m.  He weighed 7 pounds, 15 ounces, 20 inches long.  Lots of black hair!  He screamed as soon as the light hit his head!  As soon as I was able to hold him (about an hour & a half after he was born due to having a c/s) he instantly took to nursing like a little pro & he's been a marathon nurser, I can already see him starting to fill out).   He's been pretty calm & quiet except when he's getting his diaper changed or when he's ready to eat!!  And surprisingly he sleeps through all the noise of his older brothers!  They love him  & have both been really good helpers which is such a relief, (now we'll see how it goes next week once Gary is back to work).  When we left the hospital Saturday he was down to 7 pounds 5 ounces but when we went in for his checkup on Monday he was back to 7 pounds 10 ounces & the way he is nursing, he'll probably be 8 pounds by next Monday for his next checkup!

This was probably my worst c/s experience though, due to a different type of anesthesia-spinal block instead of an epidural ( I think, I was kind of fuzzy that whole day), different medications (24-hr morphine drip due to the anesthesiologist), nearly passing out before they even started (which is not typical) due to the morphine lowering my blood pressure, and then the following:

Just a few minutes into the process, Gary & I hear my doctor say something quietly, and then "Holy Crap!"  Needless to say this is not what you want to hear when you are laying there waiting to hear your baby's first cries, I was thinking he cut the baby or that I was hemorhaging & going to die.  So of course we asked what was going on and then he tells us that my uterine wall was close to collapsing and they could see the amniotic sac through the lining of my uterus which is not good.  He says that any future pregnancies may seriously jeapordize my or the future baby's health/life so he asks if I want to have my tubes tied.  Now we had discussed this at every appointment for the last two months & Gary & I had talked about it & been pretty adament that we were not going to do that because it was too final, we wanted to have at least 1 more baby; but hearing this news we naturally decided to go ahead & have it done.  Later the doctor told me the uterus is like a balloon and you're not supposed to be able to see through it but there was a fairly big-sized piece that was see-through which if I had gotten pregnant again would probably have collapsed completely.  Given that information I feel we made the right choice but it still makes me so sad, both Gary & I talked about it & he's sad too but in a different way of course. I just feel even more empty now, more than the usual emptiness after having your baby, just knowing I'll never have another one.  So in addition to the physical pain there's that emotional pain too.

But to end on a positive note, our neighbor brought us dinner & cookies Saturday night which was really nice because we hardly see each other but her husband & Gary chat all the time, and it was a delicious dinner: chicken spaghetti with a white sauce instead of marinara, and fresh snickerdoodle cookies, and when I called to thank her she offered to come over anytime if I need an extra hand or to run to the store for me.  So nice. 

And we finally got our new carpet in yesterday!! Now we can set up the nursery, at last!

[cannonsmama]

Jul. 30, 2009 at 4:43 PM Oh Olivia I am so sorry about the birth and your tubes tied. Just think about adoption and knowing that that way you can have a Girl for sure. Glad that Desmond is here and that you are both healthy. Hope to meet him soon!

[mommyofCandT]

Jul. 30, 2009 at 5:14 PM

Congratulations to you and your family and welcome to the world Desmond!  Sorry to hear about you last experience with a c-section. I have wondered this many times if something could happen to me like that. I am almost certain that if we were to have another one I would probably call it quits. My dr. did discuss that they don't like to do anymore then 4 c/s due to thinning of the wall.  Another thing that I keep thinking about is if I will have enough energy to deal with another baby on top of these girls...we will see! :)  Glad to hear you all are doing well!

[Kajenloca]

Jul. 30, 2009 at 6:57 PM

What a beautiful addition to your family. Welcome to the world, Desmond. Love that name!! Do you watch Lost by chance?lol Enjoy these precious moments with your newborn. :)

[mommyorient]

Jul. 31, 2009 at 10:01 AM Congratulations on your new precious son! He is adorable! But please know that your decision was what was best and you have three wonderful boys and noone can every take that away from you guys. I know it must be difficult to accept but your sons are what are most important and you made the right choice. Congratulations again.

[norene]

Aug. 1, 2009 at 12:12 AM

congratulations! another wonderful baby boy for your family!!