I'm Back!

[randi1978]

Yup, here I am, back in full force and as ornery as ever! 

I am working full time as an assistant manager at a payday loan place.  My former employer, another payday loan establishment, is going out of business.  Karma is a bitch.

My older daughter, Michelle, was evaluated up at Mary Bridge Children's Hospital earlier this week and the diagnosis is official: my daughter not only has ADHD, but she also has Asperger's Syndrome.  I guess it's something that I have always wondered since it was first brought up two years ago.....but I had hoped that she was nothing more than a little girl who had gone thru a whole lot.  Counseling has been established, but so far she has had one appointment this month.  My work schedule conflicts with the counselor's availability and my work doesn't cut any slack.  Schedules are put out a month in advance and my days off never coincide with the counselor's availability.

Things haven't gotten much better in regards to my younger daughter's adoption.  The adoptive parents are considering selling their house and moving out of state.  This news has caused the greatest anguish.  My greatest relief was having a general idea of where they lived.  But I am a resourceful person and could probably find them easily.  But her being out of state is too much.  It makes me wonder if they are choosing to do this so the girls don't ever run into each other.  You cannot deny the resemblance between the two.  What if the a-parents' insecurities run so deep that they are opting to run instead of facing the inevitable.  They said they had no plans on telling her about her older sister until she was 18.  Is this their plan to ensure she never finds out until they deem fit?

All in all, it's been a rather boring and yet stressful few months during my brief hiatus from CafeMom.  But rest assured, I am back and ready to kick a little ass. 

[MamaMulder]

Jul. 31, 2009 at 10:10 AM

Oh mama. I am so sorry to hear about the diagnosis, but so happy that you guys are working on getting help..

Also too bad that they are *running* from Michelle. Would it really be so horrible to be honest with the child they adopted?! Sheesh!!

Glad to see you back around the cafe!! <3

[blessed3times]

Jul. 31, 2009 at 1:10 PM

Hey Randi - welcome back!  I haven't been on here much these last few months for a variety of reasons but I do check in every so often and was glad to see your post!

I'm also sorry to hear about Michelle's diagnosis but I guess it's better to know right?  And you are such a smart person that I'm sure you could do your own research and find ways to help Michelle on your own - not that you probably don't need the counselor, but I bet there's some things that parents need to learn on their own.

I'm going to be doing that myself with Joshua - as a therapist thinks he has ADHD. 

I hope the a-parents are moving for some other reason - a better job for instance - and not because of you and Michelle - that's just crazy on so many levels - YEESH.

Hope to catch up with you more soon!  Welcome back - you were most definitely missed!