Can you say "Wrong time, wrong place?!"

[lmsar]

 My STBX has attempted to come to our son, Lucas' speech therapy appointments without speaking with me first. There are some days that the speech therapist isn't there, vacation time or other situations occur where our appointments will either be canceled or rescheduled. Our son also has other appointments that might get in the way of his therapy. So the two appointments he claims to have showed up for were days his therapist wasn't there. And the receptionist at speech therapy said she never saw him on those days. Well, we had a child support hearing this Wednesday and since he is a low life piece of work, he doesn't have a job and is only obligated to pay us $89 a month if he gets a minimum wage job. Before we parted ways that day he asked if we'd be a speech therapy on Friday our usual day, I said we would. He was angry because I didn't bring our son to the hearing. I had already asked if he was allowed to be there in case I didn't have a sitter, I was told children aren't welcome because it could be a hostile environment. 

This morning I got a call from him and he wants me to bring our son early so he and his grandmother could see him. Just last week we started seeing an occupational therapist a half an hour before his speech therapist, I didn't like the one he was seeing at the children's hospital. So I told him we'd already be there. He had originally wanted to meet in the parking lot. So he said he'd meet us in the lobby at 3pm, I said fine. When I bring him out of the occupational therapist room into the lobby there they sit, his grandmother with alcohol on her breath and him with a pissy look on his face. I wheel Lucas over to them and my ex starts unbuckling him from his wheelchair. I finally take him out and put him on his daddy's lap. We were waiting for the speech and occupational therapist to finish comparing notes. A couple minutes later his therapist was ready for him and I take him from my ex and they want kisses before we go back. I was under the impression his daddy was coming back with us. But he said "No, I gotta take grandma back to work." I was so mad. He used Lucas' appointment time for visitation. Fifteen minutes after his original appointment time with the speech therapist I finally get him to the room and let my frustrations show to the therapist. She tells me she had asked my ex if he was going to join the session today and he said he'd wait in the lobby to see if I show. She told him I had been there for a half an hour with the occupational therapist. Oh, did that piss me off, I always show. I'm the one involved in my sons life, I'm the one encouraging his rehabilitation and taking him to all of his many appointments. I am NOT the absent parent! This will not happen again.

 

 

 

  

[MSugarKane]

Jul. 31, 2009 at 8:31 PM

Thats sad.  We do learn from our mistakes though.  

[willysmama]

Aug. 25, 2009 at 11:33 AM

that is so sad and wrong. Sorry you had to go through that along with your son.