SO MAD RIGHT NOW

[joanie31]

I'M SO MAD RIGHT NOW I CAN'T EVEN SEE RIGHT ITS MY NEIGHBOR SHE THINKS IM A TAXI I MEAN WE TAKE HER WHEN SHE ASKS BUT TODAY WAS THE LAST STRAW  SHE ASKED TODAY WE SAID YES THEN WITH OUT EVEN ASKING SHE PILED ALL HER KIDS PLUS THE NEIGHBORS KIDS IN MY VAN AND THERE WAS NO ROOM FOR ME OR MY KIDS I WAS MAD I TOLD MY DH JUST TAKE HER AND COME BACK FOR US. MY DH TOLD HER THAT HE DID NOT LIKE THE NEIGHBOR KIDS AND THEY HAD TO GET OUT OF THE VAN BUT SHE SAID NO THAT THEY WHERE COMING WITH HER I WAS LIKE WHATEVER SO I TOLD HER THIS THE LAST TIME WE ARE GOING TO TAKE HER ANY WHERE AND SHE GOT MAD AT ME AND STARTING YELLING AT ME. I'M SO MAD I CAN YELL AT SOME ONE.. SO PLEASE TELL ME WHAT DO TO DO WITH HER.

[rebabeach2]

Jul. 31, 2009 at 8:46 PM

Give her a copy of your city's bus schedule and tell her to f**k off. She sounds like a user.

[drfink]

Jul. 31, 2009 at 9:01 PM

kill her with kindness.the next time she asks tell thank you for wanting to spend time with us but it just isn't going to work this time and smile and walk away.keep repeating the answer it just isn't going to work this time with a smile.eventually she will get the drift.nomatter if she asks for an explanation or what simply repeat the answer DONOTlet her draw you into adiscussion why or whynot or anything.you owe her no reason,just repeat the answer tell hubby also.

[Lb128f]

Jul. 31, 2009 at 9:49 PM

Say "NO" and mean it!

[MSugarKane]

Aug. 1, 2009 at 7:18 AM

Learn to say No in a kind way.  Some people will take advantage of you without a second thought and keep doing so until you put your foot down.

Now that you have already told her that was the last ride, stick to it.

 

[BrokenAquarius]

Aug. 1, 2009 at 10:57 AM

I had a nieghbor who would always borrow our lawn mower and then he went and broke the thing which didn't make me to happy since my husband is deployed at this time. I had to spend the money and time to get my mower fixed. Turned out he put bad gas in it. So the best thing I found to say to him is that "That's just not going to work for me." This allows me to say no while still being neighborly. You will maybe not feel so comfortable about it, but after a few times you'll feel good about standing up for yourself. I did. The thing about people like that is there users and they don't care a smidge about you any how. Hope this helps.

[armycoppertop]

Aug. 1, 2009 at 1:33 PM

When your husband said he the neighbor kids had to get out of the van, and she said they are coming with her, then he should have told her that if the kids are with her, then they will be going with her via some other mode of transportation. When she got pissy about that being the last ride and started yelling, he should have kicked her out of the van right then and there and if she refused, called the cops. She is THAT ungrateful that she FORCED you to take people who you did NOT agree to taking in the van, she is NOT someone who deserves for you to be NEIGHBORLY to, she burned THAT bridge!

[TreMarie]

Aug. 2, 2009 at 8:19 AM

i would have told her to get out then and their. It sounds as if she is the type to use people and then gets mad when she doesn't get her way. I wouldn't even worry about it. You don't need someone like that in your life.