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The story of MY molestation & why some people shouldn't be parents.
- Aug 1, 2009 at 3:53 PM
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When I was 6 years old and was molested. I was on the school playground and two boys grabbed me, one at each arm, and they started pulling me in two different directions. It was painful and I felt like my arms were going to break off. They pushed me down, slapped me around and what not. Where were the teachers? I wish I knew, they were probably off somewhere talking and not paying attention. There was a cement wall the came park way out form the playground where the kids would play sometimes. Unfortunately it should have never been there because the teachers and staff can't see us when were behind it. So that was a obvious choice for these boys. They dragged me back there. They both exposed themselves to me. They peed on me. They pulled my pants down and inserted their finger into my vagina. They made me touch them. These boys were the same age and in the same class as me. There was more but I think ya'll get the idea of what was done. I didn't tell my mom right away. And when I did tell her it wasn't all at once. I told her a little more each day and she didn't push me ,she let me go at my own pace. She then went to the principle and spoke with him and the teacher. Both boys were brought out of the classroom. The next day they had a meeting with me, my mom, the black boys mom, and the white boys dad. The black boy was the one who's idea it was and the white boy was being a follower. I'm not saying this as a racial thing, please don't take it that way. I don't want to use their names so that's just how I'm identifying them. The father of the white boy was very upset however the mother of the black boy was actually snickering and laughing like this whole thing was stupid and a joke. Come to find out this boy had been raped by his father, who was now in prison. This child's mother refused to get him counseling, she thinks he doesn't need it and it's not that big of a deal. Well, that explains alot. I wonder of this boy was even told what his father did to him was wrong? Both boys were removed from my classroom. The white boy left me alone after that. The black boy, if he saw me would jump out of line and punch me in the back and leave marks on me. My mother had him removed from the school. I often wonder what happen to these boys. The white boy probably got counseling and I think he had a good chance of moving on in a positive manner. The black boy I worry about. Did his stupid bitch mother get him any help? Did the state remove him from her if she still refused help? I have mixed emotions. I feel angry but at the same time I wonder if this child even knew what he was doing was wrong. I honestly feel that I'm more angry and blame the mother for what happen to me more then I do him. Now when I change my boy's diapers I tell them only mommy and daddy can touch that and the only touch yours never anyone else's lecture. Asher's first couple weeks at head start I was there, everyday all day to see what went on. I've been called over protective very often by a lot of people. I'd rather be overprotective then have my child raped personally. Thanks for listening to my rant.
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I'm sorry this happened to you. No one should ever have to deal with abuse of any kind. It is sad that it happens so often. And, I don't think you are over-protective...just smart! Voted pop.
There is nothing wrong with over protecting your children. I did so with a vengence raising my four girls.
It is good that you were able to tell your story, you never know when it may help someone else, and just writing it out will give you healing. It does sound like you have gotten past this and handled it very well. I am voting this popular so more moms will see it.
You may be overprotective, but that's not a bad thing!
There is a lifetime movie like this 100% I don't remember what it is called but I have seen the SAMETHING on TV.
HUGS I am sorry that happened to you.
I was molested but different circumstances.
I'm terribly sad this happened to you.It has always been a fear of mine for that to happen to one of my children.I have drilled them all and remind them every time they go anywhere to be cautious.You are a "Brave Soul" to share.I don't find you to be overprotective, instead you are being Smart!!
well when i was 9 years old i had a family memder,molsted,me,and i hid it from my mom until i was grown,and she always told me i could tell her anything but i was scard,my dad would kill his brother,so i hid it for years,as i became a woman,i mad me have problem,with trust,in men,and i had to get help,and still getin help today,i have 2,daugther and i dont let them,by around people with out me,and i trust no one with them,because of what happen to me,as a child,you hear,about stranger messing with,kids,but not ,to manny family members,iam so glad as adult,i did tell my mom,but i cause me a lot of problems,with men today,iam just hurt and mad i did not tell my mother,because,i hurt my mom,and she blams,herself,as a family we have came a long way,but what i no,now,and teaching my kids,its best to tell,if a man,or woman,hurts,you are another,kid,because in the long run,you end up hurting yourself,by not telling,and cheating yourself,out of life.
Hugs and thanks for sharing your story.
I worry about my kids, especially my oldest, she is 5 and starting kindergarten in a few days. I have tried to teach her about private body parts, and that no one is to touch her in those areas.
I have even stressed that if ANYONE - adult, child, teenager, EVER tells her "don't tell your parents or......", the first thing to do is come tell me or her daddy. I do examples a lot of times just so she understands. It's hard to make them aware of wrong doings yet not trigger a lot of questions that they are not ready for.
I also tell my kids that if ANYONE other than me and hubby or grandparents - amd especially someone they don't know - tries to pick them up, to kick and scream as loud and as long as it takes to get someones attention.
Of course you cannot protect them 100%, but you have to do the best you can. You are not over protective - you are trying to prevent something from happening. If anyone has been thru waht you had been through - they would understand.
Thanks for sharing. If you ever find out what happened to those kids - please let us know. I am curious. I know I had incident (not as severe as yours and I was a lot older) - that guy died several years after, but he was no good and was never gonna be.
I do NOT think you are being overprotective! You are obviously a VERY LOVING mother! Thank you for putting this out here where more women/mothers can read it and hopefully understand you can NEVER EVER be TOO SAFE/OVERPROTECTIVE,NOT EVEN IN SCHOOL. I voted popular.Bless you and thank you!
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