daughter getting married...wants SD to walk her down the aisle!

[gillacutty]

My daughter,Krystal, is 23.  She has found a beautiful, kind man she wants to spend her life with.  BD has never really been there for her after he got remarried. After I got remarried SD has always been there for her & taken care of her .  Loved her, helped her when she made bad decisions. Forgave her & loved her unconditionally. BD has showed her that he loves his wife more than his kids. So BD heard from son that she was getting married.  Krystal should have called & told him, it was an oversite. Then he asked her who was walking her down the aisle. She panicked & said ,"I was going to have you & Bubby (SD) walk me down."  After that conversation, she got a call from her brother who told her she hurt BD feelings.  She called me in a panic attack! She couldn't breath! I had a hard time calming her down! I told her to turn off her phone & we'll talk about it tomoro after work! I want to call BD & chew his ASS!!!! SD called her back & talked to her for a while so now she feels better! Now what do we do?

[Lesli]

Aug. 4, 2009 at 1:31 AM

I have seen weddings where one does the walk down the aisle and the other does the Father/Daughter dance. You can also have one walk her down the aisle and the other answer the clergy's question of "who gives this woman" if that is included in your ceremony.

Still another way to decide who does what, depends on whose footing the bill. If BD is paying, the he should walk her down the aisle. If you and SD are, they he should be given the option. If the bride and groom are, then things get even more complicated.

 Or my cousin, because of the way their venue was laid out, it had three sections of pews so there were two aisles not one in the middle, so the wedding party came in and sort of circled the guests. So when she came in she did one circuit with her dad and then one with her stepdad.  But that really only worked because of the layout.

[kittenripmaygo]

Aug. 4, 2009 at 2:26 AM

it is your daughter's choice.

its sad that the BD got his feelings hurt but as you pointed out he hasn't been there since he got remarried. and the SD has.

tell her not to worry about it and follow her heart.

[strongmom61]

Aug. 6, 2009 at 1:54 PM

I agree with the first comment that it depends on who is footing the bill. If it is the step-father with no help from the dad, then the he should be the one who gets the honors. However, if daughter/fiance is then she should follow her heart, or find a middle ground that will appease both of the dads but separately. GOOD LUCK WITH THE DILEMMA!!!