Scared and Confused

[beatymomof2]

So I get home from work and picking up the kids from daycare and my husband asks "What's wrong with your dad, is he okay?". I say "I don't know, why". He says "your sister had praying for dad as her facebook status". So I turn on the laptop and get on facebook and go to her page. Yep sure enough it's there. I didn't doubt my husband was just hoping to get more information. So I send her a text asking "What's going on with dad?" She calls me and says they don't know. On Monday night he was feeling tight pains in his chest but refused to go to the hospital. On Tuesday we had to speak (he's been sober for 5 years - guessing he didn't want to miss it and knew if he went to hospital he would) at an aa meeting or class. He told them he'd go to the doctor afterward, he did. They sent him straight to St. Francis (in Grand Island, NE - hospital). They did a cat scan - found lump or mass on his brain but the bleeding had stopped, he had a mini-stroke (this all came 3 phone calls after texting my sister). They are sending him to Omaha as soon as a bed opens and 24 hrs after first cat scan giving him another to see if mass/lump grew. A bed opened, when he made it to Omaha my sister sent me a text saying they made and he may have had a heart attack as well - will know more tomorrow. I told her to keep me informed. Let's just say this is my step-sister and I want to know why the fuck my step-mom hasn't called me or my real sister to inform us as to what is going on. Hello he is our dad and if your a bitch enough to miss your step-daughters baby shower for her 1st child because you don't like a person that will be there and than tell dad you had something else planned for months yet only planned it 2 weeks before. We are his children too and just because we didn't live with him growing up doesn't mean shit. We need to be informed and not third hand information for a daughter that you had to give up your house to because she can't rent anywhere because she has a history of only staying in a place for a couple of months. Three kids, 21 years old (well 22 Friday), 3 different baby daddies (kids are 7, 2, and 8 months) and yet mommy is still supporting your ass because you can't. Kids spend more time with grandparents than mommy and yet she thinks she's knows what it's like to do things are your own. But that's a whole different rant. I wish I knew more about what was going on. I'm worried because they don't tell me anything. Found out about his cancer from a friend of the family and to this day don't know what kind of cancer he had. When his hepatitis acts up never find out until months later that he wasn't doing good. I know that we are not close but when we live 3 hours apart it's hard to help that. But I do think I deserve to know and that a phone call from my step-mom would be the correct and appropriate thing. I know that she is busy with him in the hospital but why should she always call my step-sister and tell her what's going on but not care to call the others. He's been my dad for over 26 years and that won't change. He's only been your husband for 18 years.

[NebraskaMomof2]

Aug. 22, 2009 at 11:42 AM

I'm so sorry and I hope your dad is doing better. The funny thing is that I am in very much the same situation you are. My stepmom doesn't keep me informed of certain things about my dad and my two half brothers seem to know everything. I don't live at home anymore of course, and they do (19 years old and 18 years old )but I think I deserve to be informed of things that are going on with my father. You and your whole family are in my prayers.