Confusion...

[kira110782]

Why do we fight with those we care about?  And why is it always hardest to admit you care about someone?  That is the most recent delimna.  And how do you care about someone, while loving them, but not be sure if you have made the right choices in a relationship? 

My guy and I have been together 5 months now.  Things are good....great, even.  I still cannot believe he has stuck around through everything.  I am happy with him.  He is great with the kids.  He is graet with me most of the time...But he has this jealous streak...And this controlling, possessive attitude.  I am not property.  I am not an object.  BUt he is getting better...Maybe I should post a pic or two?  LOL  Once i get my digital camera up and runnin, I will. 

Anywho, I am still alive.  Things at work are much better.  Still doing the long commute.  Still truckin along.  MIss the moms here a lot!  I have most weekends off now, which is awesome!!  THe kids are growing up way too fast!  And that is about it for me...

[NannyB.]

Aug. 5, 2009 at 9:48 AM

There are all kinds of reasons people fight.  One of the most common is that we don't like our boundaries to be violated.  Everyone has boundaries, but some don't even know what they are.  I suspect you don't like to be controlled(violation of your boundaries), and I also suspect the jealousy in your friend has to do with his perceived violation of some boundary or other that he is protecting.  These are not issues that just go away, and they need to be looked at, talked about, and dealt with.  Otherwise, they will cause heap big trouble for you.  I think you are seeing warning signs of that right now.

[kira110782]

Aug. 5, 2009 at 4:35 PM

I don't like being controlled at all.  I am a 26 year old, single, military career oriented, mother of 3...I can take care of myself and have been for a while now.  I understand being protective of someone...But at what point does it pass protectiveness?

(Original Poster)