Seriously? I'm the crazy one here?

[loves_her_baby]

Okay so DD refuses to take a bottle for the life of her. We've tried every shape size and brand you can think of. We even went out on a whim and bought the 13 dollar Adiri nurser and we had our hopes high about it. Well that one sucked just as much as the others. We tried a cup, an eye dropper and a medicine spoon. She just wont take it. She screams and cries until she gets the breast. I was planning to go back to school in the fall but at this point i dont see it happening. I put my daughter before myself and thats my job. I don't believe in CIO. I never have and never will. When i tell people at my situation the response i get is you have to let her cry and scream until she takes the bottle. Or you just need to not feed her, let her keep crying without giving her the boob and eventually she'll get hungry enough to want to eat. When i told them that that was ABSURD all they could say is "well youre screwed" or "youre letting her run over you" or "shes too spoiled". I mean...what the F*&k? Shes a baby. Shes hungry! Its my job to feed her. I made the choice to breastfeed and I made the choice to NOT give her a bottle. When she was younger we had problems with her nursing and taking a bottle. She started to prefer the bottle because she didnt have to work as hard. This was during a period where i was extremely engorged and was getting infections multiple times. I couldnt just stop nursing and let her always have a bottle instead. We've been trying with the bottle for about amonth now. School starts in 3 weeks...and i just dont see it happening.

Now i'm just trying to figure out how I'm in the wrong here? Why would i let my daughter cry until she gets so hungry that she just gives up hope of getting her comfort which is nursing? I dont understand... I really dont. I understand that everyone has a different parenting style but 2 of the people who told me this didnt even have kids! The others all formula fed...how can they even relate.I would imagine that they never had to let their child scream to take a bottle seeing how they were taking them since day one. I'm just so pissed and confused that people would question my parenting because i wont let her NOT eat. Its not like shes crying because shes spoiled...shes HUNGRY. UGH. WTF?!

[kittenripmaygo]

Aug. 5, 2009 at 3:21 PM

try to get out of the house during feeding time. have someone else do it for awhile..

sometimes you'll have to wait till she gets really hungry to take the bottle till she gets use to it, or do the CIO. but it's your child. you do the parenting, not the other moms. the can input their opinions but in the end you make up your mind.

I hope it works out

[tyme4me2day]

Aug. 5, 2009 at 3:24 PM

I feel your frustration.....I went through the same stuff......I gave in a gave the baby the boob.

[knagsmom]

Aug. 5, 2009 at 5:29 PM

have u tried the born free bottles? my dd wanted the breast like that but i couldnt prduce enough milk we pumped but also had to us the bottle she only liked the born free NIPPLES

[jus1jess]

Aug. 5, 2009 at 8:36 PM

You're not crazy. You're dedicated. Waiting a semester won't hurt. Making her starve and cry will. Ignore the comments from people who have never nursed or don't think twice about CIO. They obviously don't understand your dilemma. You're not screwed cause she won't be exclusively nursing forever. Anyone who thinks feeding a baby properly is equal to letting htem run over you is plain dumb. You don't want their parenting advice. *hugs* Don't let it get to you.