Trying to help...

[witchfantasy]

Ok, so my little brother recently welcomed a beautiful baby boy into the family, well since the little one has been born, my brother and parents having been in a constant feud because my parents haven't seen the baby more than a handful of times and my brother's wife's family constantly gets to see the baby. My parents have tried to go over to their house and spend time with them alone and every time they try to do so here comes my brothers mother-in-law invading the house.

Now personally, I don't think it's right, I think that both families should be able to spend equal time with them. Brother and sister-in-law are trying to say that my parents don't try or when they go over to my parents' house that they don't want to take the baby in because of the smoke (My parents smoke and so do hers) but yet, her Mom and sister smoke around the baby all the time. I don't know what to do, I've tried writing a very neutral email to all 4 involved and trying to make them understand that bickering about it isn't going to help any, but unfortunately they're all VERY stubborn. I told my mom that if it were me in either of the situations I would try to resolve it, and honestly, I wouldn't care of the inlaws were there or not, I'd still go there and visit. I plan on doing so next time I'm up in WA again. I'll call and make sure they're home, that's about it... and my brother already said he would be so happy if I did. LOL

The only reason I'm really trying to help is because of my nephew, he doesn't deserve to have to deal with all this stress all the time, the poor lil' guy is still waaaaayyyy too young to have to be feeling all these negative feelings that others are throwing around. Any suggestions?

[knagsmom]

Aug. 6, 2009 at 3:58 PM

i have a rule no smoking around the baby

[SalemWitchChild]

Aug. 6, 2009 at 6:23 PM

Oh and I agree, no smoking at all around the baby. I don't even like harsh colognes either. They make me sick I can only imagine what a new baby feels when smelling harsh musks.

[SalemWitchChild]

Aug. 6, 2009 at 6:24 PM

When Sierra was born I set a time everyone could come. Kinda made it a family BBQ time. During those couple hours everyone was welcome to visit and hold her. After that they were to go home and leave us alone. I don't agree with a newborn being passed from person to person all the time. Not only is a child's immune system very weak but its also mentally overwhelming for everyone to be holding a baby. A new mother will also become overwhelmed especially if she is starting to suffer from PPD. Suggest that they set up weekly backyard BBQ's or some kind of family get together so they can see the children. Other than that they do not need to be fighting on who gets to hold the baby. Their adults. They need to act like it.