i'm so mad i want to shoot him

[axandra85]

Oh my god I'm so mad i could kill someone right now.  My stupid husband refuses to buy anything for our kids.  neither my son or daughter have dressers.  we don't have a changing table, and i run a daycare.  he keeps saying we need to wait and yet when i said something about buying something for his xbox 360 and he went right out and bought it.   He says he wants to wait till we have more money because he is not hardly working and yet he won't try to find another job. 

I threw out my back a couple days ago and he's had to help me with the kids.  but he puts himself first.  the kids needed breakfast but instead of making them breakfast and then eating.  He sits down and starts eating and says he'll fix them breakfast after he's done eating.  one of the babies needed to be changed and he's reading his comic books and instead of getting up and sdoing it right away he sits there and continues to read and says okay i'll do it but waits until i 've told him fifteen times and then finally gets pissed and does it. 

I am so tired of him putting himself first.  My kids deserve to have a place to put there clothes.  and a place for me change diapers.  aHe says everything is too expensive.  and yet it was a set of three, a changing table a crib and a 4 drawer dresser for 229.  That's cheap.  I make more than he does.  I watch 5 kids a day not including my kids.  i charge 2.5 an hour per child.  I get paid through the state for two of thme and the other three there parents pay i make of two thousand dollars a month.  and i am tired of lets wit

WHY DOESN'T HE WANT TO BUY STUFF FOR OUR KIDS.  THE ONLY WAY I GET THEM ANYTHING IS IF I GO BEHIND HIS BACK.  I HATE THIS! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[kittenripmaygo]

Aug. 7, 2009 at 10:17 PM

go behind his back then.

your kids comes first not him. and if he doesn't like it.. too bad. KWIM?

[GodsGirlZora]

Aug. 7, 2009 at 10:19 PM

Sorry you have to deal with this.  hugs.

[emf6874]

Aug. 8, 2009 at 10:38 AM

It sounds like you married a big child instead of a man.

[truthrowan]

Aug. 8, 2009 at 11:26 AM

I'm sorry you're going through this. Have you tried Craigslist free listings or Freecycle? Sometimes you can find things on there folks are getting rid of, don't want anymore for free. Check with your relatives and friends to see if anyone has any old dressers or furniture they aren't using. All most all of my furniture has come from thrift stores or relatives or friends who didn't need it anymore. The only things I've bought new are my Matress, bookshelves, and tv trays, and I even got all of those on sale. As for your hubby, if he is a big kid, then trust me, you won't be able to do much to change him unless you give it to him hard. Even then, he's more likely to pout than actually change. I wish you the best of luck.

[armywife0107]

Aug. 8, 2009 at 4:41 PM

My EX husband was similar to your husband. He was so selfish & his excuse was always the same... what does a __ (insert age) year old need with ___(insert a need). He was SOOOO selfish!! His big thing was tennis shoes. We all know shoes are high. He had new shoes every 2 months. It was ridiculous!

I never learned how to break through to my EX but maybe just try to sit him down & calmly explain to him what you expect from a husband/father for your kids. Some guys just need that extra hand holding along the way to maturing. Good luck mama!