I am an ADULT, Please treat me as such.

[WillDoDa]

I'm not quite as angry as I was yesterday but I still feel so mad and there's not a freaking thing I can do which is what has me the most angry.

Last time I went to the dr (oh 1 1/2 weeks ago or so) the PA I see the most often asked if I had any blood sugar numbers for her. I said no, I haven't been testing, I am very low on test strips and my numbers haven't been too high. Also no one is doing anything about the numbers anyway, no meds no nothing, so I am just watching my carb intake and that's it. She asked what my high numbers had been and that was IT, she said NOTHING else about it at ALL.

Yesterday I had another appt with her. She asked if I had any numbers for her. I again explained that NO I do not have any numbers, I have no test strips. She said, you need to have those numbers, If you aren't testing

YOU WILL BE IN TROUBLE.......

(seriously.... SERIOUSLY?????? I am 34 and not a freaking IDIOT and you are suggesting I will somehow be IN TROUBLE with the damn dr if I am NOT TESTING??)

Ok.... SO that just blew my mind. I could not freaking BELIEVE that she said that, but being a very non confrontational person I let it slide, but I did say, the dr didn't seem worried about my numbers he just wanted me on a 1700 calorie a day diet.

She asked if I would like some test strips because he was going to want to be able to see some numbers, I said, if you want to get me a prescription for them that's fine, I'll use them whatever. So she said she'd have them called in. Then she set up a blood test to check my E1C Ok... Not sure why no one has bothered with THAT, but fine. Also, with my last pregnancy when I had Gestational DIabetes by this point of pregnancy I was having weekly non stress tests if not twice a week. So far, not a ONE and no one has suggested them either. The thing that kind of bothers me about that is that my boy is measuring big, shouldn't they BOTHER to monitor him somwhat? Just a little maybe?? #$(@)#$_@# 

This irritating woman kept saying he's going to want this, he's going to want that. Um... Lady.. I am freaking TWO WEEKS and 5 days from having a baby and all the sudden this SHIT is important. (forgive my language)

I went to walmart where they were to call in the prescription and did a bit of shopping before even checking at the pharmacy and guess what, they STILL hadn't called it in when I checked. I expected to have to wait for it, but again, they hadn't bothered to call it in. I am SICK AND FREAKING TIRED of this stupid OB/GYN Practice. It's the second time I've been assured that a prescription will be called in immediately so I dont' have to wait and get it another day. I can't go all the way home 1/2 hour and come back LATER in the day. Why on earth doesn't she bloody well give me a HAND WRITTEN prescription?? Would that be SO very hard???

Honestly, If there were ANYONE else I thought i could go to and have this baby on August 26 like planned, i would SO change RIGHT FREAKING NOW. I do not like the dr, I do not like any of the people I deal with. They are condescending and treat me like someone who has NO education whatsoever, they treat me like I couldn't possibly have an informed opinion on ANYTHING. Frankly, it pisses me off.

I just want to have my baby, get my 6 week check up and wash my hands of them. I need a practice where they RESPECT their patients. One where they are more up to date on current information about patient care. One where even if I disagree with them, they don't treat me like a 4 year old having a tantrum who needs to be TOLD what to do. I mean COME ON!!!! I am very non confrontational and respectful to them, I speak to them in a respectful tone even when I am disagreeing. I don't show my anger as I know they will write me off even further as a poor stupid woman who knows nothing.

This is the same place where a couple months ago the dr told me to be on a diet for only 1700 calories a day and "warned me" that he'd "know" if I weren't on his stupid diet. I mean seriously, exactly what was i supposed to read into that? That he would somehow PUNISH me?? come ON!!! I AM PREGNANT and I am BREASTFEEDING my current youngest. I am NOT going to compromise my milk supply or my baby because he thinks I'm too fat  (which to be fair I am) and doesn't think me losing weight while pregnant will do any harm to the baby. (granted, I did not explain to him that I am nursing still, I didn't want to give someone so clearly uneducated on other issues a reason to tell me to wean my little girl before she is at least 2 years old,)

I understand that some would suggest that I somehow manage to do something about this, but I really can't at this point. I did try at the beginning of the pregnancy to change to a different practice, but they didn't have any openings for August births. I am now very close to my c-section date (yes, I am having a repeat c-section I understand many people's opinions on this as well, and I'm sure you'll share it here too, I get that, just want you to know, I am not in a position to avoid it and that is OK)

I am to the point where I need this to happen the way it is scheduled, the baby needs to be born on August 26th as planned. There are many people whose schedules depend on this happening as currently scheduled. SO I cannot possibly manage to find another dr and reschedule for the same date and time in only 2 weeks.

I am just using this forum to scream out in impotent fury at a situation that has me beyond angry and feeling like there is nothing I can do about it aside from fill out useless surveys later after the birth is done. I just feel like this is having a negative impact on my pregnancy experience which isn't super great anyway, but I'd sure prefer to at least like my ob/gyn practice. maybe a LITTLE BIT.

[coffee_chick]

Aug. 8, 2009 at 11:49 AM

Oh Dawn! I am so sorry that this all has happened the way it has. There is no excuse for the way you've been treated. I've been treated the same way by a doctor or two before (not pregnant though!), and it's horrible. I hate how some doctors speak to you as if you couldn't possibly have any knowledge whatsoever. Some doctor's think they have so much power. I mean seriously, 'You're going to be in trouble.' WTH?!

How is your baby boy doing in there? Is he still moving a lot? If there was even a slight difference in his behavior, I would be all over your doctors to check him out! It's ridiculous how they have handled your care, and because you're pregnant, it's also your child's care.

What a joke.

[WillDoDa]

Aug. 8, 2009 at 12:28 PM

He's doing good, moving like crazy etc etc. :) He keeps me up from 11 to 1 moving like an alien in there thankfully Don and I are usually watching TV at that time anyway.

I just .... wanna smack em!

(Original Poster)