Stressed over his ex

[blueeyedfamily]

 My dh and I have a good marriage. We have issues like anyone, but it is good.  Then this past week his sister got an email from his HS ex that she wants her dad's bowling ball back.  She lives somewhere out west we live in the midwest.  Not something that can be mailed.  My SIL ran into her mom at the salon and her mom has no idea why she wants the bowling ball back.  It's not even her bowling ball, again, it was her dad's and he doesn't want it back.  So dh and I are really confused by this one.  He is kinda annoyed.  He has had the bowling ball for 15+ years.  She broke up with him 14 years ago.  She's married with 4 kids.  Dh and I were making jokes like we have a hand towel that says our last name and putting it in there.  Or he cut out an advertisement with a company that has the same name as us that says the future is .... the chance is yours.  And changing it to the future was .... the chance was yours. 

But neither of us knows why she wants it back.  So weird.  And for the first time in a long time dh and I got into it this morning.  Almost every day I have to wake him up.  Not that we argued, just he was annoyed with me b/c I threw our dd's clothes on him while he was sleeping and told him to get up and get dd dressed.  I didn't think anything big, but he was really annoyed with me.  I asked him if he was mad and he said no, just annoyed.  Just strange as we don't fight.  Again, no screaming or anything like that.  It's just with the ex wanting the bowling ball back and all that happening yesterday, and now this morning he was stressed, it stresses me.  I tend to be a parnoid person.  Not that I think he would do anything, it just stresses me. 

So KERI HEFFELMIRE SCHWENKER if you are reading this leave my husband and my in-laws alone.  You gave him the ball over 15 years ago.  If you want the ball back, send us all the jewerly he bought you! 

[TheWAHM]

Aug. 10, 2009 at 9:32 AM

It sounds like she just wants a reason to contact him. I would not even worry about it!

[brokenmelody]

Aug. 10, 2009 at 9:45 AM

My husband's ex is crazy like that too. It does sound like she wants back in his life somehow. Why can't you just give it to her mom? It sounds like she lives in the same town.

At least she isn't texting him pictures of their first house together with shit like, "remember this hehehe" like my husband's ex does. Time does NOT seem to heal that. She's remarried, with another kid, and she's still sweating my husband. Some people are just sad.

[blueeyedfamily]

Aug. 10, 2009 at 11:52 AM

Dh's sister is going to drop it off at the ex's parents house which is in the same town we live in.  My secretary is related to the ex (gotta love small towns) and she said the ex was just out here last month for the entire month.  If she wanted the ball so bad, why didn't she get it then?  I just don't get it.

(Original Poster)

[music_lover2784]

Aug. 11, 2009 at 10:45 AM

Bc exes are crazy and love to stir stuff up. Michael's ex used to do that. She purposely came to my sister in laws b-day party. Why? Bc my siste rin law invited Hubby's ex's brother. Apparently sister in law and hubby's ex's brother are really good friends. Anyway, you figured this was a chance to come along and pretty much begged her brother to take her. Then she gets there and can't live hubby alone.... like" look how much weight I lost, blah blah blah" I wanted to just punch her. But I was pregnant with Adrian and couldn't really get into it. Then after that she started myspacing him telling him how cute his kids are and that they are probably the color that there children would've been had they gotten married. Um did i mention she is married and has a child. She's nuts and send him updated messages about how her life is going. I mean they aren't even friends ya know? but anyway, all that was just to point out that ex's are crazy and don't think clearly and mor ethan anything, they do it to stir stuff up and get you worked up. DON'T LET HER TO IT. I know i sound like my mother but BE THE BIGGER PERSON. lol. Seriously give her what she wants and literally turn the page back to the chapter that is ya'll life. Her's ended quite some time ago. No need to reread it. Feel me?