What To Do Now? Tie Tubes or No?

[sleepymamaof3]

 Okay, hubby and I had discussed before that our 3rd baby would be our last and that I would have my tubes tied after my little guy was born. But now I don't want to. I'm not saying that I want another baby (I have that feeling right now of course, which may be why I don't want to do it, but I miss being pregnant and then think that I don't want to never be able to have another baby). I think 3 is perfect, but what if in 5 years we wish we could have had a baby? He says that he does not want anymore babies and that he is not making  anymore babies, but I am not ready to be told that I can't have anymore. I suggested doing the mirena (which we had originally planned on) but he says no, that he wants my tubes tied and that's all. I know that it is my body and he can't force me to do it, but I'm worried that if I don't we will have problems and I don't want that, but I also don't want to be told that I can't ever have kids again. He doesn't have health insurance and we can't afford for him to get his done, so it's only me.

I'm worried about what to do. My follow-up with my doctor is the beginning of September, but he wants me to call them and see if it can be done sooner (because I would have already returned to work when I go for my follow-up).

[Pookie1016]

Aug. 10, 2009 at 4:42 PM

That's hard!  But when it comes to your body and your birth control, you shouldn't ever feel forced one way or another.  The Mirena has GREAT results and percentages.  You can keep it in for years and make your decision at a later date, maybe when you have insurance.  I had the Mirena put in after I miscarried when my son was 7 months old.  I kept it in for a couple of years then decided to have another baby.  After I had it taken out it took us 10 months to conceive because IUD's really can mess with your body and schedule.  I KNOW that I want another baby after this one and then I will have my tubes tied.  It has been my plan all along to only have 3 children, all about 4 years apart.  But if you are feeling uncertain about what to do, don't do anything permanent!  Your Dr will even recommend you not do anything permanent if you aren't 100% certain.  It is your body and your decision.  Best of luck to you Mama!!!