Why are men so stupid?

[kimikylemama]

My husband that I met almost 6yrs ago and married almost 5yrs ago has betrayed me so much.  This past monday my sil decided to check my husband(her brother)'s facebook account.  We just like to be nosey and look at what one of his idiot friends posts.  So, she found out that he had been talking to a girl for a long time and of course she calls me.  I just kinda blew it off, thinking it was no biggie.  Well, Tuesday after I dropped my son off at prek we decided that we would try to figure out his yahoo account and of course success.  We couldn't believe what we saw.  There were so many emails around 250ish from girls and to girls.  Talking about stuff that he has done with them(ie sex) and pictures of his penis, fucking other girls/women, women's boobs, crotches.  Also, he has subscriptions to adult websites, made craigslist posts for sex.  He also talks about swinging and lots more.  I can't believe that I just now find out that my husband of almost 5yrs is addicted to sex.  We found out that a couple years ago(we had seperated for a short while, nothing to do with sex, he was a loser and couldn't keep a job, but that's another story)that awhile before we seperated he started sleeping with this one girl and come to find out she gets pregnant right around that time and they thought the baby was his, but it wasn't.  So, I decided to try to hack into his myspace accounts and found so much more.  He had like 100ish emails to  and from girls as well.  He was telling all these girls that he was seperated(which it wasn't during the time we were seperated) or divorced for several months and he was living at his sister's until he could get back on his feet.  I think this is what hurts the most.  I can't believe how stupid I could be and not see all the signs, I just figured it would never happen to me type of attitude.  He would supposibly go out with his friends on friday or saturday nights.  I can't believe that he hid this from me since 2006.  Kyle and Kimberlee love their daddy and now they won't get to see him that much.  He's just going to get visitations we're not splitting custody right down the middle.  I just finally told him last night how I knew his dirty little secret, not really little, and I thought he was going to freak because I was snooping around in his emails and such.  So, now I have to find a job because I have been a sahm for over 2yrs and now I have to be able to afford somewhere to live and the rest of the bills.  Also, this week I am going to get tested for everything and anything because how do I know that he didn't get any stds or worse from the girls he slept with.  I still can not believe this, how could he be so unfaithful and live with himself.  He did admit that he does have a problem.  Its kinda funny because the other day he told me I think we need to get rid of the internet but he didn't tell me why.  This was monday before my sil called me, so I didn't know any of this about him. 

[mcqueenmom]

Aug. 16, 2009 at 1:09 AM

hey I think we need to talk, i just found the samething on my hubbys facebook account, not as bad as yours but still I would love to chat with you. We are both having the same feelings. My name is Christine.