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Are Women Getting Dumber?
- Aug 17, 2009 at 2:05 PM
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Today is what I like to call "my lazy sunday".
On lazy sunday's, I take it easy. Very, very easy. I usually read books, take naps, watch t.v. so I wanted to change it up. I got on cafemom for like an hour and went through women's journals and I was a little disappointed. Not because the journals weren't awesome, they were, but because most of them were about women who let the men in their lives cheat, hit or just treat them like plain old crap!
What the heck is wrong with these women?
I believe that women should love themselves before getting into any kind of relationship. Because as cliché as it might sound, how do you want someone to love and respect YOU when you're not loving and respecting yourself? It's not rocket science people! The men who cheat, lie and hit women are scum bags who don't even deserve to be called men. So- let's call them douchebags.
These douchebags are manipulating and breaking down beautiful and smart women on a day to day basis. And ladies, be real- you know who you are. Women are to be loved and cared for- NOT beaten and belittled. There are so many men out there that would kill for a family and for women to care and love them back- and some of you are wasting your time on complete douchebags? I just don't get it.
Also, why do women insist on staying with men "just for the children"? Are you kidding me? "The children" will one day grow up and let you know that it would have been better coming from a broken home- than being raised in one. Cause believe it or not, children are not stupid. They understand and being in a home where two parents love/hate eachother but are not in love with eachother is torture! Don't you think that in the future, when they become adults and understand that you were miserable that they would want you to be happy?
The women who get beaten up. Why? Why do you stay and not only that, why do you stay with your children in these situations? There are so many programs out there that reach out to battered women. It's a shame that most women find out that they should have left until it's too late. It's a shame that we find children in dumpsters after being "accidentally" beaten to death. We're supposed to protect our children, like wild animals if we have to- so why do some put up with this? There is no excuse- and that's sad.
So to all the women in these situations, grow up! Put your big girl panties on and live life! Live it fully, happily- in the pursuit of real love. Find someone who is worth your presence and time. I know it might sound farfetched- but there are good men out there. How are you supposed to find one when you're not giving yourself the chance?
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Just one more thing....To all you wives and girlfriends who journal that your man is hiding things from you like MySpace pages where he lists himself as single, phone messages he doesn't want you to see, calls taken outside the house so you don't hear, nights away from the home, etc.
To answer your question: YES, I do think he's cheating. HELL YES!
Stop putting up with it!
I wish I could upload a photo here but sense I can't if anyone wants a Stop Domestic Violence siggy plz check my journal. This is a serious problem and as the OP knows my cousin was just killed (we buried her on Sat. 15, 2009) after her estranged husband who has beat her for years walked up in broad daylight and shot her outside of an apartment complex!!! This needs to stop ladies! And by allowing him to hit you and cuss you and hide things from you and you not loving yourself enough to stand up to him your giving him permission to do this to you!!! What do your kids need? A man that beats their mom and runs around town with every woman that will sleep with him! Not hardly!! Besides your teaching your boys it's ok to beat women (my cousins boy didn't make it to his mommas funeral, he was in jail for DV...) and your teaching your girls to let a man use her as a doormat!! STAND UP FOR YOUR CHILDREN, QUIT USING THEM AS YOUR EXCUSE FOR NOT STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF AND THEM!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks chick! I love this journal!!!!!!!
Thank you Julie411me!! I think it's time women to wake the hell up. I agree with you, if your man is hiding a myspace page, puting "single" on anything on-line, hiding his phone from you- etc.. I hate to break it to ya- but HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!! And we're worth so much more than that!! Why don't women realize that!?
And Holly, I do know what happened to your cousin. That's another reason why I wrote this. What a waste of life- and he doesn't even deserve to be called a douchebag, he's more like dog crap. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Amen!!
Thank you ladies =)
this is a great post! it makes no sense why women stay in these situations when there is so much help out there. and dont give me the staying for your children excuse because that is just ridiculous. you're children learn values, morals, principles...right and wrong....they learn about love, hate...relationships...everything- FROM YOU! if you're allowing them to not only witness but continue in a lifestyle like this, what are you really teaching them? you're teaching your girls that its ok to let men stomp all over them and you are teaching your boys that women are just meaningless objects put on earth for them to dominate. is that really what you want to teach them? there is too much help and support for anyone not to use it and if you're too scared to do it for yourself, do it for your kids. otherwise, you're just a selfish coward. and anyone who can potentially sentence innocent children to a life of abuse earns absolutely no respect from me.
Well put Beth, it really is a cycle. Next thing you know your childrens children are learning these same negative values and it's never going to stop cause it's all they've ever known! It's really sad.
I agree with everything you said 100%. These women need to wake up and value themselves! Do they not realize that this is having an effect on their kids future? They too will grow up thinking this is normal and the abuse will continue with them,....I just can't bring myself to comprehend what makes you continue to stay when someone treats you like crap! and I totally agree that there's men out there capable of treating you like a true WOMAN,.. I should know I was lucky to get one!! VOTE THIS POPULAR!!!!!
Of course you don't get it, because you've never been in their shoes before. It's easy for all of us to sit back and say we would leave and we would never put up with being treated like that...and they should do this and they should do that...blah blah blah. We don't know what they are thinking or feeling so how can we even begin to comprehend their reasons for staying. All we can do is support them and let them know that there are resources out there to help them. I understand that it's frustrating so I completely get why you felt the need to post this but your post sounds look you are demeaning these women and that is the last thing they need considering they get enough of that from their abuser.
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Excellent. This is the MUST READ POST on all of Cafemom.
Admistrators,PLEASE highlight this post. Link it to Facebook. Feature it in as many categories as possible.
Readers, please, please vote this popular.
OP, thank you for writing the words that I have been wanting to spout off for a while now. I read journal entried here that make my heart ache. Ladies, PLEASE, wake up!
- Julie411me
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