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Why I don't like Christians
- Aug 19, 2009 at 9:33 AM
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The list is long, but my latest in counter with someone who claims to be a very Christian woman has made me realise that I was right not to trust any of them.
We were going to be moving to the Cincinnati area, because my DH being transferred. His "christian" mother said we could stay there for a couple of weeks while we finished up everything in Indiana, and got everything ready in Ohio. We moved out of our place on June 28th, on June 29th my DH woke up unable to walk. I went to take him to the hospital. I was told by his step dad, who is a christian, who is out of work, that I had to take all 3 of our children with me because they were not a built in babysitter. The hospital discharged him after 7 hours, thankfully my mother came and got the kids after she got off of work. The next day he was worse and couldn't get out of bed at all. I had to pay his 17 year old sister to watch the kids while an ambulance came to get my DH and take him to the hospital, his mother and step father wouldn't help me with them at all.
He was transfered to a different hospital, his cousin offered to take all 3 of my children for the next 3 days and 2 nights while I stayed at the hospital. I took her up on the offer. His mother and step father complained about having to take care of my dog that was locked on their back porch.
My DH spent a week in the hospital. We found out that he has multiple sclerosis. He came home using a walker, unable to use his left hand, seeing double, and constantly dizzy. I was taking care of him, our kids, and cooking for everyone in the house. I was scrubbing everything clean, trying to help out. All I got was told that they like their dirt, and I didn't need to do that. Sorry that I don't like looking at a 1/4 of dirt and dust on baseboards, or a floor that is black and should be white.
When he went back to the neurologist she said that he isn't progressing well, and she didn't want to see him for 6 weeks. He called his company, and they said that they weren't going to transfer him because they needed him now. That was on a Monday. We were able to get some of the money back that we had put down on a place down there, so we drove the 4 hours down there. Again, his mom and step dad would not watch the kids, so his cousin did.
Tuesday thru Friday we would load the kids up in the car by 10am and I would pick up applications and we would try to find a place to live. We would get back at the earliest 8pm. We were looking over 3 different counties for a place to live and for me a job. Saturday morning I wake up to notes all over the house. Saying keep kitchen clean, I'm the one that cleaned it. Turn off lights, shut door, ect. My children are 7, 4 1/2, and 2. 2/3 of them can't read. I was upset, my oldest didn't understand why there were notes all over. His mother was very rude in her response to her, I told my husband it was his mother and to deal with it.
She started going off on him about how we were ruining her house. UM, it was filthy till I came in and cleaned. And about how the last week the kids were annoying her. UM, they weren't there. And about how they aren't babysitters. UM, you wouldn't even watch them when your son was being taken to the hospital in an ambulance, so I don't see how you were being used as a sitter all the time. And she wasn't at the hospital, she was sitting at home praying for him. She was hysterically praying over him while I called the ambulance, scaring the shit out of him, I really wanted to yank her off of him!
His step dad butted in and told him that they couldn't handle their house being ruined and we needed to get out that day. My DH told him that he needed to give us a 30 day notice. That we were trying to find a place, and I was trying to find a job. His mother turned hysterical, and threw a fit. My children saw her hysterical, and I have never let my children ever see anything like that.
That day we found a place. It is completely ran down. I spent from 8am till 2am Sunday fixing it up. My husband and all 3 kids were there with me, in the heat, with no electric, no way to get a cool drink or turn on a fan. I took them home at 7 to feed them before going back to fix and clean and paint. The heat now makes my husband sick.
He threw up when he got out of the truck. His mother assumed that he had been drinking. After I left I guess his step dad told him we had to be out on Tuesday. I found this out after I got home, covered in sweat and dirt, and couldn't take a shower because it might wake up his mother. I slept 2 hours, and then got up to start getting everything ready for the day.
I finally could not hold my tongue any longer. The fact that she had spent all day Sunday watching sermons on tv, and going to church. The fact that she spends most of her time preaching out of her bible to not only my husband and me, but also my children. The fact that they have pictures of Jesus all over their house, and they claim to be Christians. Did not IMO go with their actions. I went off on not only her but her husband. I told them that my husband was not drinking, that he was sitting in the hot house all day. They acted surprised at that fact.
I told them that this place was crawling with spiders, and ants, and fleas. That there was dirt and grease and general filth everywhere. There was no stove, a broken water heater, a broken toliet, and a leaky pipe in the laundry room. That there was no way that I was going to rent a truck 2 different days because his step dad couldn't lift the other end of a washer or fridge, and if I couldn't get that stuff in there then we couldn't move in. That the reason that their dog kept biting my children was due to how they (his parents) treat the dog. And that if his step dad could either tell me what the hell his problem was with me, or quit giving me the dirty looks that I had been getting for 2 weeks.
They said we could move out on Wednesday instead of Tuesday. Just to give me time to fix everything.
So we moved.
They are Christians. A mother kicked her son and his family out of her house. She knew that her son could not walk without a cane, she knew that he can't go up and down steps, she knew that the only money we have is what is in savings, she knew that he made enough money to support us so I hadn't worked in 3 years, she knew that he isn't regaining anything like he should and is going to be permanently disabled, she knew that the place we were moving into was a dump. But she didn't care.
We still don't have a stove, my husband still cannot walk, I went for an interview last week and should know by Friday if I will be getting it, We have no money, but at least we have been out of that fake environment for 2 weeks
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And some people wonder why I changed my beliefs. I know your going to get through this and the best thing is, you have done it on your own. I'm always here for you, but then you know that. Can I curse their asses? Boils on the butt or something? LMAO
I am sooooo sorry that you had to go through all that... People like that should not call themselves Christians... What they are spewing to the world is not what Christians are. I am praying for you and your family. I hope that you husband is feeling better. I was a Nurses Aide for 4 years in a nursing home and MS can be devasting. Please know not all of us "christians" are like your mil and fil. Some of us really are helpful and loving. Some people just like to offer help so that they can say they did, but really they don't want you there or to help. But it's the "christian" thing to do... So they can't look like good "christians" if they didn't offer... So when you accept the offer they treat you like dirt in order to get you out quicker. I am praying for you.... Cincinnati is a hard place to live we were there for over a year. I hope you get a job soon. Have a blessed day.
That is so sad, and I hope things start turning around for your family soon. Your in-laws sound toxic, and what kind of a grandmother won't watch her grandchildren for a few hours? What a hypocrite. You should ask her if Jesus would have turned away children who are scared for their daddy and in crisis? She doesn't deserve them.
I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this. I think that you are a awesome wife and mother for finding the strength to endure your circumstances. I understand that you are mad and you have every right to be but, I hope you don't judge all Christian's by their actions. You said it yourself they are "fake" christians. God luck on all your job interviews and I'll be praying that you find a great one. If you ever want to talk just message me.
I am sorry about all that you have had to go through. Honestly though some people no matter their beliefs are bad human beings. I thought you liked me =) (and I am a Christian) I hope everything works out for you hun, I know it will.
Awww steph, you know that I love you!!!!
that is awful. i'm so sorry! it honestly doesn't surprise me though. i consider myself a christian, but i know what you mean. i have family members who are fanatical christians who behave the same way. i don't understand it. what ever happened to "treat other's the way you want to be treated"?
I am so sorry to hear about the hard time you have been having, I hope things have gotten better over the past couple of months. just remember we are not all like your M/FIL to be a real christian is to be Christ like....that is actually the meaning of christian. If you are not trying to be Christ like you should not be calling your self a christian but ppl do anyway, they haven't got the message from their head to their heart. My Ex inlaws sound a lot like yours, must have gone to the same how to fake being a christian school. and my EX inlaws are supossedly ministers, Yet they can turn thier head blindly when I tried to talk to them about their son having an affair, instead it was all my fault because I wasn't a good enough wife and they helped him move out and let him live with them after he walked out on my and our 2 kids. Judge each person by his own actions. Me and my sons refer to my ex inlaws as pharases. but I also know some very genuine christians aswell. You know a true christian my their actions.
I am sorry you had to go through all of that. Like many of the others said, please don't judge all Christians by these hypocrites. There are many people like this - they use Christianity as a cover and listen to sermons and preach the bible - but they have NO idea what being a Christian is. They are false Christians. I like the following thing that someone else said. Maybe it would wake her up. I can't believe these people treated their son and his family like this when things were so horrible for you. That is simple basic human compassion!!!
You should ask her if Jesus would have turned away children who are scared for their daddy and in crisis
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