I'm Done with My Mother

[NuMommy87]

I've tried to be a good daughter and forgive her for being an ass the whole time I was pregnant.   I've never disrespected her even when I had every right to do so.  Still my mother is never satisfied.   I can't believe the lengths she's gone to make me upset.   I decided to be civil with her in January and everything was fine until she started trying to come between me and my SO.   I tried to be diplomatic and explain that if she doesn't like my SO too bad.  I suspect she wants me to be alone so I can depend on her.  Then ever chance she gets she tells me she'll babysit my son anytime.   I'm sure it sounds innocent, but its not.  Why would someone ask so much?  Well I told her can't talk my son anywhere by herself until I'm ready.  When I was pregnant she basically told me to get an abortion and then later into my pregnancy she told my godmother she's going to call ACS on me to take my son from me.  This because she wanted me to talk to her even when I was told I was no longer her daughter and stupid.  Mind you I was not living with my mom or being supported by her.  My mom then wants to invite herself to my house whenever she's bored.  That annoys me too because all she does is complain about my house and that I need to do this and that.   I always welcome advise because if I don't feel the need to take it I won't.  When my mom got mad at me a month ago because she couldn't get her way.  I find out from my mother is telling my godmother and other family members that my SO controls me and beats me.  WTF is that?   I called to confront her, of course she lies about it.   I told her I'm not with the childish behavior.  Now since I'm not talking to my mom she runs to my grandmother to spew more bullshit.  I wish my grandmother would ignore her ass for real.   So yesterday my grandmother calls me worried, talking about I've changed and forgot my family.   I smell the bullshit already.   I asked what did my mom tell her this time and my grandmother tries to say my mom said she was worried about me.  Why am I the only person who can see nonsense?  I explained to my grandmother that my mother is full of it.  How does she go from calling me everyday or every other day to none at all because she doesn't get her way?  I swear my grandmother will defend my mother to the end.  So we end that discussion.   I can't take my mother and her stupidness anymore.  I try and try to have relationship her.   Its okay for a few months then goes to shit.   Now I just want her to leave me the fuck alone.   I think I put up with enough of her shit now and when I was kid.  My mother always choose her men over me, and I had to fend for myself.  Then when I move out and care of myself, I'm the monster.   This family is going to drive me crazy if I let them.   Then its a shock to them that I'm reluctant to bring Elijah around this.   My decision now is to live MY MIFE on MY TERMS... PERIOD!!  NO MORE DRAMA!!!

[mrskgill06]

Aug. 19, 2009 at 12:21 PM

Dr. Phil had an episode on Drama Queens Yesterday... I think you need to call him.. LOL  I think you are doing the best thing for u and your family... Stay strong