How to forgive yourself

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How to forgive yourself?

“Don’t sweat the small stuff! Letting go of self-condemnation finding freedom learning how to forgive yourself, even if other people can’t forgive you.”

Forgiveness doesn’t come easy for some people. I know this from experience. I was one of those people who didn’t forgive because I was self-condemning. I didn’t understand that was one of the key reasons why people don’t forgive themselves. Let’s face it, we are too hard on ourselves!

At the time, being self-absorbed as I was. I didn’t realize that forgiving myself and others would give me so much more freedom. Many years after I found Christ and was living to please God. I found that we can’t please God if we are constantly living in self-condemnation, and unforgiveness for ourselves and others. That led me on a journey of forgiveness. Not only forgiving others but forgiving myself.

The best thing that anyone can do for themselves is to forgive. When we don’t forgive ourselves we experience self-condemnation which can be very dangerous. This leads to depression, anger, bitterness, and other unhealthy emotions we should not have.

Most times we let these emotions get out of control, and carry them around with us. These emotions we have can cause us to sin, and ultimately sin leads to death. So you see unforgiveness can be very unhealthy and cause pain and suffering in ones life.

In this article I am going to give you ten steps to ending the battle within yourselves. You can choose to surrender and complete these steps, or continue as you are living in that unforgiveness, eventually it will lead you to a place in your life you don’t want to be.

My encouragement for each one of you who read this article is to seek the Lord and ask him for his wisdom and guidance in your life. If you don’t know the Lord than I would encourage you to get with someone who does. Ask them to lead you to him. At the end of the article I will have a prayer specifically for the people that read this article who don’t know the Lord.

By praying this prayer you will be asking God to come into your life, wash away yours sins and make you whole again. You will become a new creation in Christ. The holy spirit (our comforter) will than be able to guide you on your journey to becoming a God-fearing, God-loving person, and help you to rid yourselves of this unforgiveness.

　

Here are some ways that you can experience freedom from self-condemnation by forgiving yourself. You must remember this is not a quick fix and will take time and patience. We must also remember that when you truly make a commitment you must not give up.

Go to the Lord in prayer, asking him to forgive you for not forgiving yourself. Have a conversation with him. Tell him all the reasons you believe that you can’t forgive yourself.(talk out loud)This is very important because you will hear yourself think, and also how ridiculous you are being. (This may even make you laugh.)

Journal your thoughts and how you feel about living with the self-condemnation that is the root cause for not forgiving yourself.

Make a column of positive reasons why you should forgive yourself.

Read in your bible where it says that God expects for us to forgive.

Make a sign saying “I forgive myself!” or “I will not condemn myself anymore!” and put it somewhere that you see it every day.

If you have old photos of happier times when you know that you didn’t have forgiveness issues look back on them and meditate on what you see. God wants us to be happy. The absolute only way you will be happy is if you get rid of the self-condemnation and unforgiveness in your life.

If we have wronged anyone and need to ask for forgiveness from that person we should make amends with that person. Sometimes our own guilt of doing something to someone else and not receiving forgiveness from that person can cause self-condemnation, which in turn causes us not to forgive ourselves.

If anyone has wronged you. Go to that person and tell them that you forgive them. (You must mean this) Don’t do it if you don’t truly mean it from the bottom of your heart.

Go to your prayer partner and ask for that person to intercede in prayer for you over this. If your friend knows that you struggle with this they can help you come to terms with why you struggle and be in constant prayer for you. They can edify and build you up so that it makes it easier for you to let go.

Don’t focus on the negative things that keep you trapped in that self-condemnation. Only focus on positive things. Positive thoughts bring about a positive attitude which in turn brings about a positive change in your life.

　

This may not be the easiest thing to do but if it were easy I wouldn’t have to write this self-help article to help you find freedom from self-condemnation which is the result of unforgiveness of self.

You need to take that first step. It gets easier as you down through the steps. May the Lord be with you through your journey to find forgiveness for yourself and others.

Luke 6: 37"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. 38 Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

Dear Heavenly Father,

Today I (your name) give you my life. I realize now that you are the son of God who was sent to die on the cross for my sins. You rose again three days later by doing so you took the sins of the world to include mine so that we would not perish, so that we can have everlasting life. I believe this Lord and I want to accept this gift of salvation you are offering to me. I pray that you come into my heart bringing the holy spirit with all its fullness and give me the gifts that you would want me to have. I pledge that this very day I am yours and that the promise of salvation is now mine. In doing so please put someone in my path that can come along side of me to nurture and guide me through this transition. Thank you Lord for dying on the cross for me, forgive me of any sins I have committed before i knew you and cleanse my heart making it pure in your eyes. By accepting you as my Lord and Savior may others see Christ in me so that I can be a light to those that don't know you. I love you Jesus!