Why is there that couples stop really communicating with each other after some years?

[Amber1975]

Have you thought that your conversation and communication with your spouse becomes very limited after some years of relationships.You just start talking about what you have to do and what he will do this weekend? you talk about the kids,grocery,things to do but do you really communicate?

Here are some tips and suggestions for improving communication between partners:

Tip 1. Say what you mean

Make sure your words and body language are congruent. Do not agree with something if you don't believe it. Stay in the present and address the issue at hand rather than bringing up past hurts and events.

Tip 2:Watch your tone

How is your language? Are you using an abrasive accusatory tone? If you want to be taken seriously speak in a manner that is respectful of your partner and of yourself. Talk in the way you want to be spoken to.

Tip 3. Control your anxiety

All of us when we are worried, scared or angry feel a lot of emotion and we become self-protective. Find a way to internally quiet yourself. When in overload with anxiety one tool that many people have found helpful is to silently start counting to yourself. This act puts you back into the cognitive arena and makes it possible for you to think as to how you want to handle the situation at hand.

Tip 4. Listen to understand

In order to listen we have to be calm enough ourselves so we can hear. Listening is a skill that requires wanting to hear what the other person has to say. Ask follow up questions so you can really understand what your partner is saying instead of rebutting before you really understand the essence of what is being said.

Tip 5. Understand the power of relationships

Couple relationships are made up of "I" and "You" and together they form WE. Thus when communicating all three factors are always present. Couples develop a balance in their relationship that can either enhance them or limit them. By taking responsibility to say what you think and feel and really listening to your partner you are respectful of the WE you have created.

 And more tips

Have you stopped talking?

What do you talk about to your spouse?

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