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THE SOB HAS BEEN CHEATING ON ME SINCE WE FIRST GOT MARRIED 2 YEARS AGO!!!
- Aug 23, 2009 at 6:57 PM
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The story continues from the journal I posted about three months ago...
Things had been going way better between us, we had been going to counseling and we were getting to be better friends and he told me he missed me whie I was away on vacation with my family. We were going to the VA international Raceway for a sport bike show and we had an altercation over whether we should take our 11month opld or not. I wanted to and he wanted to leave her here with his mother. We ended up leaving her splitting the weekend between his mom and mine. We came home sunday after a great weekend and the monday after was fine too. He woke up Tuesday morning and told me he went to see a lawyer last week and was moving in with his mother and he left without anything else to say. He left me with nothing, no money for food, no food for our baby, nothing.
I have since found out from his best friend who finally cracked under the pressure of 2 years worth of lies to tell me that whenever my ass husband cody was supposed to be at his friends house he was out partying and seeing just how many girls he could get to sleep with him. He said there was over 20 cases of infidelity with about over 7 different girls. One was a girl I saw with him on his motorcycle from my church, one that we had gone to school with who used to be a stripper, one fat that he had in my bed while I was on vacation and since he couldnt keep it up he had to ask her to leave. ONe he met on a cruise to alaska he went on at the beginning of the month. That bitch is flying out here to see him this weekend--I found that out because I went through his phone before we went to VIR and found her work and cell numbers and email address so i have seen her picture and everything on facebook. I thought i could trust his mother so i asked her about it and she covered saying that it was something her husband needed for work. She knows about my baby and the prick asked if he could have my beautiful baby girl either this weekend or next. He doesnt know I know anything about these girls. I also found out that his mother covered up for him when she caught him with his old babysitter on newyears. God only knows how much she knows about his crap. And she has been pretending to be on my side.
I want to know if there is anyway that I can get him to only be allowed supervised visits until my daughter is a certain age? He is a drunk who has taken her from me while smashed and wouldnt give her back til he nearly fell over but I was the only witness and he was so drunk he doesnt even remember anything from that night. He pushed me down whie I was pregant and slammed a door in my face and he has gotten so mad at me that he has dented his truck from punching it. Then add in the adultery and abandonment. And he is living with his mother (who did this exact same shit to her 1st husband and was only allowed to see Cody one weekend a month and everyother holiday). The baby doesnt have her own room at his mothers. Is there anything that I can do to keep them and their sadistic habits from my baby? I would tell them that they are more than welcome to see her but I would have to be there to supervise. And when she gets older if the bastard would want to see her to himself, lets say take her putputting I would drop her off and wait for her in the car. Can I do this? Will they see my side? Please someone give me the answer I want to hear....
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I am really sorry about everything you have gone through. Nobody should have to go through that. I have been cheated on and I know how bad it sucks. You are so much better off with out him. Stay strong things will get better for you.
yes we are married, he just peft us and informed me that we were separated. So i am going to begin the battle for sole and totall custody. the ass even now only wants her every other weekend and a week in the summer. but i am going to try to get him even less than that if i can. Does anyone know if I can? He is garbage and i am glad to be rid of him. he can have his skank from los angelas but she isnt going to play mommy with my baby if i can help it.
When you file the divorce papers ask for a family court services investigation - this is what I did and THEY determined my ex needed to take certain steps and classes before he could have unsupervised visitation. Most courthouses will have a domestic violence advocate. They can't do the paperwork for you usually but they can help you know what to fill out and how to go about it. You may be able to get a restraining order pending the outcome of the family court services investigation (I did). They will take just as close a look at you as they do at him, but if he's a danger then it's so worth it.
Also most counties have an option to waive the fee to file the divorce if you are low income or without resources.
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It isn't going to be easy that is for sure. Are you two married? i would never judge another person just wondering if you than also had to divorce him or just leave him. Call social services in the morning. Let them know what is going on and see if they have any programs to help you. There are alot of resources out there, don't be afraid or ashamed to ask. He is the one that hurt you, and i agree that you shouldn't let him around the baby. But in all reality, most men like that (not all, but most) will give on the babies after a time. They will enjoy their new fun and want to loose all the things that are boring or cost them money. this comes from experice trust me, i am here if you need someone to talk to that has been where you are.
Good luck
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