We're not in high school anymore...

[Bethsunshine]

I keep getting friend requests on Facebook from people who wouldn't have spit on me if I was on fire when we were in high school, yet, now, 16 years later, they want to be my friend!!! Go figure!! I don't know whether to be amused or angry. Angry, because they made my life a living hell for years, never apologized for it, made me dread going to school every day, and now they deem me worthy enough to be their friend. Amused, because I'm a happily married mother of 2 wonderful children, married to the best man on earth, and they're probably fat, used up and miserable now.  I got a friend request months ago from a girl who literally said maybe 2 words to me when we were in school, she was Miss Head Cheerleader, Homecoming Queen, and everything else. I didn't even think she knew my name, and she wanted to be my friend?!? That same week, I got a friend request from a guy I literally have known my entire life, but he rarely spoke to me, he always thought he was Mister Super Stud and I wasn't pretty enough to talk to. Then, just today, I got a friend request from a guy I knew since 5th grade, I guess, who was an obnoxious, loud mouth jerk, always teased and tormented me until the day I graduated. Are you kidding me?!? Maybe if that friend request would have come with a message something like " Hey it's me, you know, the guy who treated you like dog doo for 10 years? The one who made fun of the way you looked, your hair, your nose, your skinny body, pretty much everything about you until the day we graduated from high school? Yeah, remember me? Anyway, I'm sorry I was such a horse's patoot back then. Can we be friends?" That might go a long way to soothing those hurt feelings and low self esteem I still deal with to this day, thanks to him and many others like him. I don't know what would make me feel better, clicking the "ignore" button, or just sending them a message, telling them exactly what I think about them, and how they made me feel and I how I feel about how pathetic they are for wanting to be my friend now. Maybe I should just go ahead and accept the friend request. Let them see how well I'm doing. Let them see that I'm NOT that shy, gawky, teenager anymore, and I have a beautiful, amazing family now. Maybe THAT would be the best revenge!!!!

[Barb10]

Aug. 26, 2009 at 12:27 AM

O my!! I know how you feel!! People that could have cared less to be a friend then wants to all of a sudden now, just to have another friend on their page and see our private info,which you know you can hide stuff from certain friends!! I made a point to only invite people I talk to or want to and nothing else and occasionally I will hit the ignore cause I have had people ask to be a friend just to see my info and then delete me,talk about rude!!

[cmy3kids]

Aug. 26, 2009 at 9:20 AM

This is the same stuff I'm dealing with right now too! The funny thing is... once you accept their friend request, they don't talk or write to you at all! An old friend of mine, who although we were good friends at times was always too busy for me. There actually was a time I was so down after my dad died I requested that she stay on the phone with me and just talk... she actually replied that she was in the middle of watching a movie (VHS) and she'd call back later. She never did. After several years through high school of her treating me this way... I ended up doing something in revenge in getting back at her. Just a few years ago I wrote her a letter and sent it to her parents home address (they still lived there). She called me and I apologized for what I did. She never apologized for what she did to me, but I let it go... I said my peace on my wrong doings. Now, we are friends on Facebook and she comments on all my other good friends pages and comments... but doesn't give me the time of day! I'm to the point of just booting her from my friend list. :-(

[1daughter5sons]

Sep. 10, 2009 at 4:54 AM

You know I saw on TV a long time ago (I don't have TV myself, so it was at a friend's house), on a Maury show or one of those kind of shows, he had invited these girls to the show. First, he showed their pictures of when they were in school. Sitting there on the stage, were the guys that had treated them terribly at school. Now, I'll say, the pictures were their worst and yet, I was a person who always befriended the underdog. Anyway, he would ask them if they remembered this particular girl. Oh they would always say yes and recount how stupid and/or ugly she was and all her flaws. Then, the talk show host would call out the woman that had been antagonized all of her school days by this bully. Yep, you guessed it...she was beautiful, curvy, confident, and she put that guy in his place right there! I loved it! So I think you should treat them with honey dripping out of your mouth and show them that you don't need them to make you KNOW who you are. You are a sweet and caring person...I know because you are MY friend!  You go, Girl! "Heap coals of fire upon their heads...with kindness.  You are good at that. Then, let us know what happens...